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Harry: "I want my Father back. I want my brother back"

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OnwardandUpward Tue 03-Jan-23 13:34:07

Ah diddums are the consequences of your actions catching up with you?

A change of heart is needed! You need to face up to your own actions and stop acting as the only victim.

VioletSky Tue 03-Jan-23 23:20:12

Loved Diana

I think she would have done exactly what Charles and William could not. She would have told the truth.

She knew exactly what it meant to be the black sheep of the family.

hollysteers Tue 03-Jan-23 23:16:11

VioletSky

Diana would have loved Harry speaking out lol

Rubbish. Diana believed in the monarchy even after her own experience and would have been upset that her eldest, the heir to the throne was being put through the mill publicly by her youngest son.

Callistemon21 Tue 03-Jan-23 23:08:39

hollysteers

Glorianny

Chestnut

Diana would never have wanted her children to fall out in this very public way
I keep wondering where we would be if Diana was alive. She would never have allowed things to go this far. She would have acted as mediator. I also think she would be an experienced woman of the world by now, and would have kept Meghan under control!

Oh boy! Now expecting one woman traumatised by the RF to control another one traumatised by the RF. I know victims should support each other but that doesn't mean controlling others does it?

Diana fell out with her own family, not speaking for long periods and returning unopened letters to them. She held bitter resentments against people who didn’t deserve it, so is quite a template for Harry (including her own television interview; they are never a good idea).
The Spencer family have a history of bad behaviour.

That's true, hollysteers.

Learned behaviour.

VioletSky Tue 03-Jan-23 23:06:22

👀

hollysteers Tue 03-Jan-23 23:00:52

The Duke and Duchess of Windsor did not go on about ‘security’. I’m not even sure they had any, and as a very popular abdicated King, it would have been handy to have him completely removed, as well as the fact there are always fanatics about.

hollysteers Tue 03-Jan-23 22:51:35

Glorianny

Chestnut

Diana would never have wanted her children to fall out in this very public way
I keep wondering where we would be if Diana was alive. She would never have allowed things to go this far. She would have acted as mediator. I also think she would be an experienced woman of the world by now, and would have kept Meghan under control!

Oh boy! Now expecting one woman traumatised by the RF to control another one traumatised by the RF. I know victims should support each other but that doesn't mean controlling others does it?

Diana fell out with her own family, not speaking for long periods and returning unopened letters to them. She held bitter resentments against people who didn’t deserve it, so is quite a template for Harry (including her own television interview; they are never a good idea).
The Spencer family have a history of bad behaviour.

OnwardandUpward Tue 03-Jan-23 22:44:20

It is such a shame, for their kids too who won't get to enjoy time with their cousins as they would have done- and who must read al about everything online one day.

25Avalon Tue 03-Jan-23 22:39:27

It’s easy to get caught up in all the vitriol since they left the UK and to see only that. There is an article in the Bristol Post tonight with photos from when they visited Bristol in February 2019. Both Harry and Meghan seemed more relaxed and natural with no posing. All I could think was what a shame.

bluebird243 Tue 03-Jan-23 22:30:56

I think the penny's dropping. Wait until the next one does....

Callistemon21 Tue 03-Jan-23 22:18:19

Glorianny

Callistemon21

But no comment about the lack of accuracy in the thread title? I wonder why?

Perhaps because no-one picked up on it until you criticised me for using it?
As a copy and paste from the OP.
🙂

Check Page 1 of this thread, about the 7th post. That was when I first commented.
An apology isn't necessary.
An acceptance of the thread title's bias would be nice.

Oh dear [sigh] - the BBC again!!

Prince Harry: 'I want my father and brother back'
Published 22 hours ago

nanna8 Tue 03-Jan-23 22:18:12

I couldn’t care less what Hand M say about their families but I think it is utterly disgusting to say it publicly for personal gain. When they got married I thought it was really good and they would be a big asset for the RF but it hasn’t turned out that way.

Callistemon21 Tue 03-Jan-23 22:08:03

Glorianny

Callistemon21

But no comment about the lack of accuracy in the thread title? I wonder why?

Perhaps because no-one picked up on it until you criticised me for using it?
As a copy and paste from the OP.
🙂

Check Page 1 of this thread, about the 7th post. That was when I first commented.
An apology isn't necessary.
An acceptance of the thread title's bias would be nice.

I'm sure I didn't ask for an apology.

And I probably didn't see your earlier post.

OnwardandUpward Tue 03-Jan-23 22:04:43

Glorianny

Callistemon21

he's just doing what you all wanted earning his own living (and wsupporting charities- but I suppose that's wrong as well)

Yes, jolly good, so are most of our DC I expect.
Well done

But not trashing their families in the process then crying crocodile tears in public because their loved ones have withdrawn in their hurt and confusion.

My DSs were raised in the real world and are useful and productive members of society.
Harry was raised in a bubble and an institution his main purpose being a substitute. Not surprisingly he has few skills and needs expensive protection. so he's making money any way he can.
Perhaps his loved ones should have given more thought to this before they threw him out.

Its never too late to get an education or learn new skills, fortunately.

Siope Tue 03-Jan-23 21:49:58

”Here, one day you could be down on your luck and the next king of the hill. That's what Americans call the American Dream”

I typed a detailed post explaining why this is a fallacy, and it didn’t post.

Here, then, is a Wikipedia article which shows the reality of social mobility in the USA, and makes the point that the best way to live the American dream is to move to Denmark.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Socioeconomic_mobility_in_the_United_States

OnwardandUpward Tue 03-Jan-23 21:42:30

Smileless2012

^Younger people want to talk, they want to be heard^ but why talk to the world rather than your own family?

It's crazy isn't it. Like my son has had a lot of MH problems, Harry has too. They are vulnerable and get preyed on easily online on anonymous sites by people who won't be bearing the consequences of the actions they are advising.
If they would talk to the ones who love them and want to hear, it would have the potential for relationships to be saved.

My son used to be chatty (and I always listened!) before he got involved with those people who drove a wedge in. I'm sure that could happen to anyone, even Harry.

OnwardandUpward Tue 03-Jan-23 21:32:26

VioletSky

volver

To add to my M&H Bingo card; "venom", "bile" and "vitriol".

Every word they have said could be the absolute truth...

And still... it's described as such

This is why there is such a general disconnect between generations. Younger people want to talk, they want to be heard, they want to be loved and accepted as they are, they want healthy relationships and they want to heal. Coming up against image orientated rugsweeping families who allow bullying in the press and the public as long as they come out of it smelling good. Also very likely winding up quietly and in person.

As an older person I want all of those things. It's not only the young who want to be heard and loved and accepted as they are.
Its a basic human right to be allowed to think your own thoughts and be respected for it. H&M have exercised their free right to privacy, yet as always, actions have consequences.

I don't think anyone in the RF is coming up smelling good in this mess. With estrangement every one is a loser.

Glorianny Tue 03-Jan-23 21:06:04

Callistemon21

^But no comment about the lack of accuracy in the thread title? I wonder why?^

Perhaps because no-one picked up on it until you criticised me for using it?
As a copy and paste from the OP.
🙂

Check Page 1 of this thread, about the 7th post. That was when I first commented.
An apology isn't necessary.
An acceptance of the thread title's bias would be nice.

Callistemon21 Tue 03-Jan-23 21:00:12

Joseanne

Perhaps more will be revealed when we see any accompanying body language like arm waving, hand clenching, blinking etc. The experts will no doubt come up with some observations about his ears twitching

His nostrils flaring?

Callistemon21 Tue 03-Jan-23 20:59:15

But no comment about the lack of accuracy in the thread title? I wonder why?

Perhaps because no-one picked up on it until you criticised me for using it?
As a copy and paste from the OP.
🙂

Joseanne Tue 03-Jan-23 20:53:33

Perhaps more will be revealed when we see any accompanying body language like arm waving, hand clenching, blinking etc. The experts will no doubt come up with some observations about his ears twitching

Glorianny Tue 03-Jan-23 20:53:12

Joseanne

Yes, Callistemon, Gloiranny quoted it wrongly hours ago, so everyone's at it!
Glorianny Tue 03-Jan-23 13:53:30
It might be nice if a thread could start off with a little accuracy. Harry's words are "I would like to have my father back." "I would like to get my brother back."

Actually it is "I would like to get my father back". "I would like to have my brother back".
But no comment about the lack of accuracy in the thread title? I wonder why?

Joseanne Tue 03-Jan-23 20:50:33

Yes, Callistemon, Gloiranny quoted it wrongly hours ago, so everyone's at it!
Glorianny Tue 03-Jan-23 13:53:30
It might be nice if a thread could start off with a little accuracy. Harry's words are "I would like to have my father back." "I would like to get my brother back."

Glorianny Tue 03-Jan-23 20:50:26

Joseanne

Glorianny

Callistemon21

"I want my Father back. I want my brother back"

It does sound rather like part of a script from a film.

Oh - wait a minute, I've just had an idea 💻🖨

But this isn't what he said. He said "I would like" for each of them. Nothing about wanting. But of course expecting accurate reporting of his words is too much to ask for. Or that people actually watch the clip and listen for themselves.

I think what you are saying is incorrectly quoted too Glorianny.
He actually said, "I would like to get my father back," which usually implies some kind of wish to obtain or even earn something.
Alternatively he might just be using poor English grammar, the word "get" being a redundant word.

I'd go for the poor grammar 'get' is one of those words. He also says "I would like to have my brother back".
The only 'I want' is "I want a family, not an institution."
If that's being demanding well I think most of us want that and no one wants to live in an institution.

volver Tue 03-Jan-23 20:50:16

Just to spite H&M I shall watch the Coronation

That'll show them.

Boogaloo Tue 03-Jan-23 20:49:52

welbeck

no class system/pedestal in America ? really ?
how come there are such phrases as,
white trailer trash etc.
and people boast of their income, that they live in an affluent area, and there are strong residents' groups to keep out the wrong sort of people.
most countries have their own class system.

I've lived in the U.S. 50 years and there is no class system here that compares to the one in the U.K. Here, one day you could be down on your luck and the next king of the hill. That's what Americans call the American Dream.

Also in the U.S many affluent areas are often scattered with some not so affluent homes, maybe even a trailer park a few blocks away.

'White trash' comes from slave times when slaves considered white people who were so poor they owned no slaves, as trash. (Slave Narratives from the Federal Writers' Project, 1936-1938).

Not really sure what you meant by residents groups attempting to "keep out the wrong sort of people". If you mean keeping people out because of their race, that is very, very illegal. Home Owners Associations don't care who you are as long as you follow their rules.

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