Nail in the Coffin

Not surprised you’re estranged if that’s how you treat your Son and the woman he loves/mother of his children

I have read the OPs message twice and still don't understand what he is trying to say.

Crossed posts with those who posted before me. There is much more to this which is why those particular photo's would have caused upset.

Click bait? Sorry, but I'm having difficulty in taking it seriously, as the premise is so bizarre. Doesn't like DIL to the extent that she has shut down communication with her, and then seriously expects Son and Grandchild to get in touch and to establish a relationship? Dream on. This has to be either a wind-up, or alternatively the most extreme example of self-deluding behaviour I've seen in a long time.

It's not that simple Hermother if I remember correctly, the situation has badly affected the OP's wife who has some problems, and he's been struggling with this for some time.

Hello fishing4life I'm sorry that this situation appears to have now come to a head and the relationship with your son and GC has come to an end.

My heart goes out to you as I know how painful it is to be estranged from your son and GC. I've never had to make this choice but I understand how difficult and painful this is for you.

I remember when you were posting before that it was suggested that you continue the relationship with your son and GC even though your wife would be excluded. Apologies if I've got that wrong, but if I'm right, you've been between a rock and a hard place for some time.

It's impossible to know what one would do unless they found themselves in this unenviable position, all I can say is that in your position if my husband had the issues (I don't want to offend you) that your wife has, I would do as you have done.

You'll never forget, but with time will be able to process the ending of this relationship. Not seeing photographs of your son and your GC will help with time.

You've made your choice, I'm sorry you've had to do so and hope that with time you and your wife will find some peace.

I'm nipping over to Mumsnet to see if there's a thread from a distraught daughter in law, who's tried to heal the rift between her husband and his parents, by offering an olive branch of sharing loving photographs of their little family, only to have it thrown back in her face by her in laws. There must surely be one......

Unbelievable! Why would they not include a picture of them having a sweet kiss (not a full on 'snog') - because you don't like DD?

is this a reversal ??
OP are you in fact the DIL ?
this sounds unbelievable, or a wind-up.

Oh my goodness - most of us here are happy to see our children being affectionate with their partners. I worry if they don’t. Please be happy for them and don’t jeopardise your relationship with your GC, just because of a sweet ‘kiss on the cheek’. Or have I got it wrong ?

I had some difficulty unravelling it all, but I think that sums it up, Hermother

Nobody would be that foolish
Obviously some people are!!
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Have I got this right fishing4life, you don't like your daughter in law, for whatever reason, and so you've sacrificed your relationship with your son and grandchild rather than just accept that she's the woman your son loves and chose to have children with? And even when she's graciously included you in the sharing of family photos, you instructed her not to contact you again? I must have got that wrong surely? Nobody would be that foolish.