Posted on here awhile ago and been following along occasionally. We finally heard from our son, saying we "nailed the coffin" shut. I've been replaying these years through in my mind since and don't have another source to talk about them. I'm not looking for advice, just want to feel like I have a voice somewhere. We don't have family so my wife and I are really all each other have now.
It finally ended Last week when DiL emailed me after "not hearing from us" for awhile and saying they had recent family pictures taken and thought we might want to see them. (Personally they were good pictures and ES and GC look great). However, this caused my wife to become depressed (there were some pictures of just my son and DiL - him kissing her cheek, holding her and laughing, etc...Knowing our dislike for DiL those should have been withheld). My wife couldn't sleep that night and so the next day we talked about it. I would have responded with something along the lines of nice pictures, etc... short and quick, but my wife insisted, so instead we emailed back telling her not to contact us but ES could.
ES then emailed that DiL has said "to forget ones ancestors is to be a tree without roots" and "for the sake of GC, she tried to maintain some connection". But ES said he has forbidden her to contact us again and the "coffin was nailed shut" for him. (We replied with our own list of issues DiL caused but he blocked us).
I am however secretly having a hard time as I wonder what it would be like to talk to the GC I saw in the pictures. Best to just forget it but I needed to process the end and finally live without thinking about ES possibly realizing that this is just how his mother is and coming back home. Anyone else had to choose between spouse and children/Inlaws?
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