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Estrangement

Trying to cope with a long term estrangement

(31 Posts)
VioletSky Mon 08-May-23 20:37:10

Has he stated anything he needs to heal the relationship?

Still Mon 08-May-23 19:12:37

My son's mental health condition was diagnosed as manic depression years ago but was updated to BPD.

Still Mon 08-May-23 19:09:17

Yes, my son is our eldest child. I have an older stepson and a younger son and daughter.

VioletSky Mon 08-May-23 18:53:00

Sorry to hear this

What mental health condition is your son diagnosed with?

Cheeseplantmad Mon 08-May-23 18:49:34

Is your husband your sons father ?

Still Mon 08-May-23 18:41:57

I have been estranged from my eldest son for the last 7 years. 3 years ago he restarted contact with my husband and I was hopeful that this might help with my own relationship with my son.
Today my son and 2.5 year old grandson phoned my husband to tell him about a trip out I sat quietly by but knew I couldn't say hello or that sounds exciting, it was heartbreaking to know my son was just there but out of reach.
I often try to rationalise these experiences by saying 'i have a 42 yr old son with a mental health condition, he has 2 sons who adore him, a house and a job'. but today it just didn't work.