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Strength after narcissistic abuse

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VioletSky Sat 10-Feb-24 19:51:04

Thank you, I feel like the person I always should have been now I have uninstalled all the trigger buttons she put there

Sara1954 Sat 10-Feb-24 19:44:37

I know I am a better person without my mother in my life.
She made me the worst possible version of myself, even I didn’t like me.
I’m happy you’re feeling the benefits Violet.

VioletSky Sat 10-Feb-24 17:46:07

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My eldest son said to me recently that he had seen so much "growth as a person" from me since I estranged my mother.

Partially that made me sad because, for a long time I wasn't the best person I could be but it also made me glad because I have worked so hard to move past the abuse.

I do think I have become stronger and more resilient. Understanding my mother has helped me cope with many a difficult person in life because I have come to understand, it was never really about me, it was about them and their unhappiness in life.

It's a shame maybe that it took me to middle age to find this strength to see what drives the people in life who try to hurt us.