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Brother - no girlfriend or wife

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Carenza123 Sat 13-Apr-24 05:17:24

If you want to know the answer to your question, why don’t you ask him yourself. It seems a strange household where nobody speaks to each other much. Underlying tensions.

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lemsip Sat 13-Apr-24 04:36:40

mind your own business re your brother!!

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welbeck Sat 13-Apr-24 04:11:13

this sounds an odd query

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Grams2five Sat 13-Apr-24 02:53:49

I mean my first thought was how on earth you’d know if he’d ever had a girlfriend ? You spoke five words
To
Him in 25 years and it seems in the two decades or so that have followed have has very little contact - very little interaction. Perhaps he’s had many girlfriends ,
Or
Boyfriends or whatever it is he fancies but like the rest is your life has opted not to include the rest of you in it

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lcr123 Sat 13-Apr-24 01:09:00

Hello - I am going through some counselling for some child stuff but I am
interested in the fact my brother has never had a girlfriend or wife. He’s 45.

Growing up he had a very fractious relationship with my dad and only really spoke to him to argue. Apart from that they stayed well apart from each other.

My mum also didn’t have a relationship with him and they just blamed him for being a “hard work” child,

It’s only been the past few years he has started to open up with them and relax around them. But he now lives 20 miles away and only sees them every couple of weeks for a couple of hours,

My question is has his upbringing played a part in his no partner issue?

I genuinely believe he couldn’t mention the word “girlfriend” to them.

There are probably a lot of sides to him we don’t know.

Growing up I probably spoke 10-15 words to him in 25 years, in school he ignored me for 5 years.

This was allowed and ignored.

No one spoke in our house. Always an underlying feeling of tension.

Happy to hear peoples thoughts.

Thanks

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