Estrangement and inheritance

You can’t blame your grandsons, OP, because you don’t know how their minds may have been poisoned over the years. However, such name calling may be a clue to the reason for the estrangement. It’s not what I would expect an estranged grandparent to say.

Smileless2012

We changed our wills about 7 years ago and disinherited our ES Stillstanding. We've never worried about whether or not he'd attempt to contest it because there's nothing we could do about it if he did.

Live and enjoy your life and make the most of what you have and the people you love, who love you in return.

Best way. If care costs come into it, many will have nothing to leave anyone anyway.

My grandsons are now about 28 and 32 years old. If they had any guts or gumption they would have tried to contact me years ago via family members or face book.

I think this is unfair on the grandsons. You are a stranger to them. Calling them gutless for not reaching out comes across as vindictive.

By all means leave them nothing, they are strangers, but why the name calling?

keepingquiet I do not think it is so much that any will can be contested, as much as no will is immune from being contested.

But you cannot contest a will unless you think you have a good legal reason for contesting it. The 'she was my mother I am entitled to some of her money' claim will never get to court.

We changed our wills about 7 years ago and disinherited our ES Stillstanding. We've never worried about whether or not he'd attempt to contest it because there's nothing we could do about it if he did.

Live and enjoy your life and make the most of what you have and the people you love, who love you in return.

I agree with VioletSky

VioletSky

It doesn't look like you need to worry given the previous answers

The will may never be contested

But perhaps you could work out your finances and future needs and simply use your own money to bring some joy to your own life...

I completely agree

I was told all wills can be contested but it is an expensive process and maybe not financially rewarding, as some have pointed out there is little guarantee it would succeed.

In some ways I consider myself fortunate that my family have never had very much to leave behind.

I have reason to believe my mum was the first person in my family (including the paternal line) to leave a will.

With my share I had a piece of jewellery made in her memory which I intend to pass on to my granddaughter.

Whatever money I have left which won't amount to much I will leave to my children.

I'm glad my life isn't so complicated.

It doesn't look like you need to worry given the previous answers

The will may never be contested

But perhaps you could work out your finances and future needs and simply use your own money to bring some joy to your own life...

I think unless your children who were left out of a parents Will would only have a claim if they had been reliant on the parents. Always best to get a Will done by a solicitor with a letter explaining why that person had been left out, such as abondonment of thirty years or such like,

Wills can be contested, but there have to be good reasons, in England. (I think Scotland may be different, although I could be wrong).

I would just leave your money to whoever you choose to.

You could leave a letter laying out your reasons for this.

I was just about to post that Grandmabatty👍

I think the rule is different in Scotland regarding children's right to property. I believe a child can claim a certain amount of moveable estate.

Agree with you Whiff, so many children rely on the bank of mom and dad, it’s not given they inherit anything. I’ve never inherited money if there’s anything left it will go to family, unless of course the next government decide everything’s taxable without any threshold.

There is of course a great difference between someone trying to contest a will and being successful in doing so.

When I changed my will in 2020 my solicitor told me anyone can contest a will up to 2 years after you die. I had to get a letter from my GP stating my neurological condition wasn't a mental illness and I was of sound mind cost me £40. Then my solicitor got me to write a letter that would be read out in court if my will was contested. She wanted me to write about my sons upbringing including his dad's cancer and death and what our relationship was after and up until he decides to dump me as his mom in May 2020 via email. Plus what happened in my life after my husbands death Took me 2 days and many tears . I wrote 13 sides of page A4. The solicitor cried when she read it. There is a copy of his email and the letter he sent me in August 2020 with my will. I have left everything to my daughter . At the same time I took out both powers of attorney and my daughter and son in law are my attorney's. When I die there is no need for my son to know as he isn't in my will .

My husband and I believed children inherit from parents and it's up to the parents if they give anything to grandchildren. The only thing my husband's dad left him was a car number plate and a pair of brass cufflinks.

If my daughter dies before me then her son's interit.

After their dad died the children said they didn't want any inheritance when I died. Because I was 45 the government gave me £2,000 towards the funeral but we had already put the money aside as we knew he was dieing . So I gave the children £1,000.

Even though my son doesn't want me I am proud of the fact both couples brought their own homes and paid for their own weddings without any help from me . I wasn't in the position to help them but wouldn't have as if I had. My husband and I saved went without to buy over own home . The phase I hate most is the bank of mom and dad. If people what something then you have to work and save for it.

An adult child won’t succeed in challenging a parent’s will unless they are financially dependent on the parent, have acted to their detriment on a promise that they would be left a legacy which was absent from the will, or they can demonstrate that the parent was not mentally capable of understanding what they were doing when the will was written or was acting under duress.

It is wise to place a note with the will explaining why someone has not received a legacy, but nothing must be physically attached to the will - no paper clip or staple for instance - or the executor will have to prove what the attachment was (and a disgruntled relative could always try to claim that the attachment was a codicil amending the will).

In the UK you can leave your money to whoever you wish and if you wish to exclude your daughter from your will you can.

The only circumstances where an adult child can claim on their parents will is if they were dependent on their parent for any reason, and, occasionally where they had worked for a parent for a low salargy on the understanding that they were to inherit.
Clearly none of these rare circumstances occur in your case. So make your ill exclude your daughter and offspring and do not worry about them being able to do anything about it.

However, I am not the expert. I am sure that GermanShepherdsmum, who is a solicitor, will come on this thread and corect any errors I have made.