Lost all hope

I’m so sorry, it is so sad to hear this. I have struggled to maintain a relationship with my eldest daughter and her family. I have learnt never to say how I feel if I want to continue to see them. I am on the edge of being excluded from her life. I just do what I am told and pretend everything is fine. Every few years I try to talk to her as I did last weekend and I am shocked at what she says. Sending you a big hug💐

Did he ever give a reason for not seeing you Still? I feel your pain but that's the person he is now. You cannot change him but accept this and have the best life you can. I lost all hope of a reconcilliation with my d. I don't know this person she's become. What I do know is she's not worrying about me or she couldn't have done what she has as I know I didn't deserve it.

Horrible that a person can react in this way to another person, let alone their own mother.
I wouldn't put myself through this torture and wouldn't go near the house again.
No one deserves to be treated this way. I am so upset for you.

Someone on the support thread spoke of reluctant acceptance Still, and eventually we all reluctantly accept that the child who estranged us no longer wants us to be a part of their lives.

You are not alone .

Heartbreaking for you Still. Sending a (((hug)))

I don’t know how you feel but I send a (hug) from one mum to another 💐

That’s so hurtful Still. Please accept this is where your son is. You may not be able to understand this rejection but accept you can’t change it.
Look after yourself. Many people find talking therapy helps

Still. Sorry he was so cruel . But that's what estranged children do. I am glad I live in a different part of the area so there is no chance of me ever seeing my son or daughter in law.

8 years is a long time. It's been 4 years for me and last autumn I decided enough was enough . I wasn't going to hold on to hope any longer as the only person hurting was me. And I felt better in myself for making that decision.

You are going to have to decide when to let go for your own peace of mind. But we all do it in our own time . 🌹

How cruel ! I don’t any mother deserves to be treated so badly.
I send you 🤗 and

How heartbreaking for you 😓

Oh that’s so sad no matter what…we all carry hope in our hearts and always hope and believe it will be ‘OK’ in the end
I feel very sad for you because this makes it feel final
Do you know why that’s always a problem too
Nothing I can say Still but sending a hug your way

Thats so sad, I'm terribly sorry.