Red flags

I hope there wasn't a next time Spuddy!

poshpaws, I fully agree with you! Things like whoopie cushions are no problem and are really funny but when you put your hands in your pocket and find some idiot has put a rubber spider in there or they take your chair away as you're about to sit down and you fall, that's just sheer evil!

Yes, been there Onward.

Absolutely Spuddy, love our dogs or you wont be welcome.

I'm guessing you have been in that same place Smileless Like Dibley, but zero humor and way more point scoring.

When we invite them into OUR house for a cuppa and they moan that they don't like our cat, ''get rid of it'', they don't like our flowers ''get rid of them'' etc. etc. ''I want those gone by the time I come up next''.

We've got news for them! Our cat isn't an ''it'', she's a she, she's our little beloved daughter.

The flowers are ours too so there will be absolutely NO ''next time'' you come up because you're banned from our house for life!

I'm on a roll here.

Giving silent treatment when trying to discuss an issue or a problem.

Oooh I like that Onward .

Insincere apologies made for show.

Indigo8

pascal30

If they talk unpleasantly about other people..

I once worked with a group of people whose conversation entirely revolved around running down whoever happened
not be present that day and if everyone was there to moan about our boss.

I found it very difficult not to get sucked into these conversations and often felt awful afterwards. I am also 100% sure that when I was not there I was talked about in this way.

I once volunteered on a Parish Council where that happened. They were exceedingly negative and unproductive, so it seemed like a waste of my time.

Great minds discuss ideas.
Average minds discuss events
Small minds discuss people.

Unable to accept a no for an answer

This, no matter what the circumstances.Those bl***y people who always require an explanation. Then they will do their best to argue their way around it in order to persuade you into their course of action.

In the past men asking me out was the main annoyance. Another is people who want you do do things for them,

Now I have learned the art of the conversation stopper delivered in the "headistress talking to naughty child" voice when someone persists.

You were probably right Indigo. When someone's talking about someone who isn't there, you can bet they're doing the same about you in your absence.

If someone upsets you and refuses to say sorry or tries to minimize it.

pascal30

If they talk unpleasantly about other people..

I once worked with a group of people whose conversation entirely revolved around running down whoever happened
not be present that day and if everyone was there to moan about our boss.

I found it very difficult not to get sucked into these conversations and often felt awful afterwards. I am also 100% sure that when I was not there I was talked about in this way.

If they never support you

If they talk unpleasantly about other people..

People who are totally self absorbed and don't stop to even ask how you are. I am off like the wind.

same as you VS and not actually listening

All of the above, and it isn't just parents who behave as if their children have no right to think for themselves and ...... have all the answers, this happens between adults outside of that relationship.

Someone who is overly judgemental of others and bitchy about people behind their back

In my experience you're absolutely right Indigo, I make a conscious effort not to do it with my children.

March

When you make a decision and someone tries to make you change your mind because it doesn't work in their favour or they think the know better.

How true. This tactic is often a feature of bad parents who think that their children have no right to think for themselves and that as a parent, they have all the answers.

When you make a decision and someone tries to make you change your mind because it doesn't work in their favour or they think the know better.

If they are continuously right and spouting rubbish.

Indigo8

When somebody accepts and expects generosity without ever it occurring to them that they should give or do anything in return.

Yes, including those that thrash about constantly being a victim of something/someone/anyone, and then showing a sense of over-weening entitlement, without giving a thing back.

Drives me nuts.🙄

Someone who Is quick to want to tell you all the flaws of those closest to them. When you meet someone new and they can’t wait to tell you how awful their children , spouse etc are I always assume that they are probably the real problem