Red flags

When somebody accepts and expects generosity without ever it occurring to them that they should give or do anything in return.

If they show narcissistic traits.

If they think practical jokes are acceptable. To me practical jokes are unkind, and usually humiliating, to the victim and I would question the entire character of someone who found them funny.

Unable to accept a no for an answer

Agree with all the above. I will add, being patronising.

7nable to accept other persons views and opinions.

Someone who Is quick to want to tell you all the flaws of those closest to them. When you meet someone new and they can’t wait to tell you how awful their children , spouse etc are I always assume that they are probably the real problem

Indigo8

When somebody accepts and expects generosity without ever it occurring to them that they should give or do anything in return.

Yes, including those that thrash about constantly being a victim of something/someone/anyone, and then showing a sense of over-weening entitlement, without giving a thing back.

Drives me nuts.🙄

If they are continuously right and spouting rubbish.

When you make a decision and someone tries to make you change your mind because it doesn't work in their favour or they think the know better.

March

When you make a decision and someone tries to make you change your mind because it doesn't work in their favour or they think the know better.

How true. This tactic is often a feature of bad parents who think that their children have no right to think for themselves and that as a parent, they have all the answers.

In my experience you're absolutely right Indigo, I make a conscious effort not to do it with my children.

Someone who is overly judgemental of others and bitchy about people behind their back

All of the above, and it isn't just parents who behave as if their children have no right to think for themselves and ...... have all the answers, this happens between adults outside of that relationship.

same as you VS and not actually listening

People who are totally self absorbed and don't stop to even ask how you are. I am off like the wind.

If they talk unpleasantly about other people..

If they never support you

pascal30

If they talk unpleasantly about other people..

I once worked with a group of people whose conversation entirely revolved around running down whoever happened
not be present that day and if everyone was there to moan about our boss.

I found it very difficult not to get sucked into these conversations and often felt awful afterwards. I am also 100% sure that when I was not there I was talked about in this way.

If someone upsets you and refuses to say sorry or tries to minimize it.

You were probably right Indigo. When someone's talking about someone who isn't there, you can bet they're doing the same about you in your absence.

Unable to accept a no for an answer

This, no matter what the circumstances.Those bl***y people who always require an explanation. Then they will do their best to argue their way around it in order to persuade you into their course of action.

In the past men asking me out was the main annoyance. Another is people who want you do do things for them,

Now I have learned the art of the conversation stopper delivered in the "headistress talking to naughty child" voice when someone persists.

Indigo8

pascal30

If they talk unpleasantly about other people..

I once worked with a group of people whose conversation entirely revolved around running down whoever happened
not be present that day and if everyone was there to moan about our boss.

I found it very difficult not to get sucked into these conversations and often felt awful afterwards. I am also 100% sure that when I was not there I was talked about in this way.

I once volunteered on a Parish Council where that happened. They were exceedingly negative and unproductive, so it seemed like a waste of my time.

Great minds discuss ideas.
Average minds discuss events
Small minds discuss people.

Insincere apologies made for show.