Support and friendship for those whose lives have been affected by estrangement.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Thank you for such a thoughtful message, this time of year can be difficult, the fact there is somebody special missing from your life can be overwhelming at times.
As Whiff says, we are stronger together, surviving with lovely support from this thread, and not victims.
Our EAC are still loved.
The picture is lovely, very cute .

Bridie glad your cat had some chicken to eat. I think animal pill manufacturers have missed a golden opportunity if they made the medication meat flavoured animals would take them not problem and save owners having to struggle to get them down them . I know my brother puts pills inside a lump of cheese for their dog. Unfortunately don't know what cats love . But glad your cat is safely home.

SparklyGrandma where I used to live there where car revers but here anyone going out early or back late just comes and goes no fuss. Yet another thing that is so different here.

The post box toppers people crochet or knit must take months . First the planning then doing the work. I always look forward to seeing what the person who does it what it will be . They must keep a record of what they have done as in my 5 years here they have not repeated any.

Lovely to see readers pop on here and lovely comments. Love the dog picture especially the puppy in the crib. A friend put antlers on her dog last year just to take a picture when she went to take them off her dog growled and went into a different room . Only time she could get them off was when he went to sleep. But he found them the next day and took them to her so she had to put them back on . 😂.

The longevity of the support thread is testament how it is still needed . Estrangement is no longer a taboo subject. People soon become friends on here estrangement brings us together and quickly we become friends . I hope I am right it saying it's been going over 12 years. Any trolls or imposter posters have been seen off . They hate the fact we as estranged parents we have survived what our children have put us through. If they where happy estranging their parents why do they continue attacking this thread 🤔. Guilty conscience maybe . Or the fact we have got on with our lives and not let our children destroy us .

We are more than just estranged parents we have a life without our children. I am lucky to have my daughter and family but am firecly independent and do more things on my own than with them . I had 13 years 100 miles from them where I had no back up looking after my parents and mother in law. Be 21 years in February since my husband died so used to making my own decision. It's not easy as many on here know but we do it .

We are survivers not victims as our children hoped we would be . Together we are stronger but carry that on into our real lives . Knowing the support thread is here is comforting . And it's not a doom and gloom thread . Yes there is sadness at times ,anger and all the emotions but also happiness and laughter. And we miss old posters and wonder how they are doing .

All are welcome it's a safe place to be and we protect our own . An old poster named us Warrior Queens and she was right as we battle on abley lead by Smiles ,Yogin and long time posters .

Never be frightened to post if you need this thread. And say as little or as much as you like . I haven't shut up since I first posted 🤣.

stillawip

Spirulla it was really brave of you to post a couple of days ago. I understand your anxiety about ‘barging in’ but please know that there are lots of other people reading this too, apart from the ones who seem to know each other really well. If you can summon up the courage to talk about what has happened, I know that you will get lots of support.

Indeed stillawip,
The fact is there are long term friends on here but they support all newcomers as the supported me when I joined a few months ago.
Now I feel as if I they are my friends too.
There is a warm welcome to all.
🌺🙏🏾

FriedGreenTomatoes2

I don’t post on this thread and to be honest hardly ever even read it as, fortunately for us, estrangement doesn’t play any part within our little family. However, I would like to share my favourite Christmas card with you all who sadly tread this sorrowful path. I imagine it’s especially tough at this time of year in different ways for you all and I’d just like to wish you as happy a Christmas as your individual circumstances allow from me. x

Thank you so much that is a lovely pic.
🙏🏾❤️

I don’t post on this thread and to be honest hardly ever even read it as, fortunately for us, estrangement doesn’t play any part within our little family. However, I would like to share my favourite Christmas card with you all who sadly tread this sorrowful path. I imagine it’s especially tough at this time of year in different ways for you all and I’d just like to wish you as happy a Christmas as your individual circumstances allow from me. x

Spirulla it was really brave of you to post a couple of days ago. I understand your anxiety about ‘barging in’ but please know that there are lots of other people reading this too, apart from the ones who seem to know each other really well. If you can summon up the courage to talk about what has happened, I know that you will get lots of support.

Bridie22

She has medication but won't eat food with it in, so it takes two of us to get her to take the liquid...she's a feisty one.🤣

I recall how it was with our cats, the dogs weren’t so savvy about meds, would wolf it back with their food. Cats are far more sensitive critters 🌺

She has medication but won't eat food with it in, so it takes two of us to get her to take the liquid...she's a feisty one.🤣

Bridie22

Just back from the vets , gums a bit inflamed and will be for another week or so as she has stitches in them, on a positive note she ate some soft shredded chicken and drank some water this morning.🐈‍⬛

Oh I feel for your cat Bridie. Dental treatment is the pits.
But sounds like she is determined to carry on eating and drinking at least.
Dues she have any medication to put in her food?
🙏🏾🌺

Whiff

Dam and blast lost my post . Anyway here's what I made yesterday at craft group and post box by me .

Wow I love that post box. How much work went into that Whiff?
So lovely to see handmade post box covers.
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Just back from the vets , gums a bit inflamed and will be for another week or so as she has stitches in them, on a positive note she ate some soft shredded chicken and drank some water this morning.🐈‍⬛

That post box topper is brilliant Whiff 🎅

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Dam and blast lost my post . Anyway here's what I made yesterday at craft group and post box by me .

Yes, I wish Allsorts I think the only thing I can do now is to just except it. I'm going to say Alright Jack when I see him next, but it's just water off a duck's back, he doesn't care one jot. Parked right down the end of our road again last night, cos I get back late evening, no spaces left, aside from over dickheads driveway, which is empty!

How inconsiderate of your neighbour Sparkly another one!

Birdie hope your cat gets her teeth sorted at the vet and gets eating again, sometimes it's best to leave these things alone and let nature takes its course [with her teeth].

Babs me too; can't forget, so can't forgive!

Yogin lol…..☕️😬

Aw hope your cat heals quickly Bridie22 maybe s/he needs water first or as well….😘

Smileless2012

We can do Hell's Angels Yogin, can't we ladies .

Ooh, you are awful

Morning SparklyGrandma,
Why are people so inconsiderate, we have lots of contractors parked up in our road they stay at the local hotel, and like yours they start leaving between 5/7am, slamming doors, radios full blast!
Yes, stories get distorted and others involved, im fortunate that most of my family and friends know my EAC and their previous dramas,
My cat is back at the vets this morning, she had dental surgery a week ago and it's been a problem getting her to eat again!

Morning fellow estrangees. I am up this early because some bright spark has started revving their car, full beam headlights on, starting at 5.02am every morning nearly.

Anyway Bridie22 taking sides sometimes feels like an estranged wider family sport.

Several of us in my wider family call it “being got at”.

I can joke but it can be very draining. My estDS and his DW have often visited or called someone up, pretended that they are in contact with me, and passed on fiction based ideas about me etc.

Morning - I have let my cats out as they love to hunt/explore at dawn and it’s safer now at this our for them ☕️

That is another aspect of estrangement babs03, friends and family having to chose a side,especially when they don't know the back story.
It can be difficult to stay neutral in these circumstances.

It took us a long time to recognise our estranged daughter’s behaviour as abusive and bullying. It wasn’t easy to come to terms with the fact that we had been reduced to victims by someone who posed as the victim. Gaslighting I suppose you would call it. Every time we tried to call her out on this she would accuse us of being manipulative or ‘toxic’, her favourite go-to word. We couldn’t win so we chose to lose and accept that as a win, because we longer were exposed to her mind games and could get used to a healthier, calm way of life.
Members of the family on my side, including my sister have over time become disillusioned with her, but I can’t forgive how they supported and enabled her, whilst watching us fall apart.
Nor will I ever forget.
Take care 🌺🌺🙏🏾

He's a bully isn't he. Bullying Yogin because she doesn't have a male partner and as we all know, all bullies are cowards. I think he'd run a mile with his tail between his legs; literally .

Correction - to turn up to sort him out.

Much as I think our little gang could spook this specimen I think you are right Allsorts, it needs a few heavies to turn with to sort him out. My OH only has old friends from school and I don’t think a retired Geography teacher and Maths teacher will cut it. 😆

Yoga, pity you can't get hold of some big built guys with bikes who can put on some real attitude, ring his doorbell and say, I understand you don't like my aunt parking outside her own house, wait and hear their reply and if he defends himself say, if it doesn’t change you will have nothing roadworthy to park there, don't like people that bully others especially women so act as if your human and give her respect. Yes I know I’m getting carried away but I'm in that sort of mood today. I also think if he had a bunch of women of a certain age heckling him it might work, because he's a piece of work.