Support and friendship for those whose lives have been affected by estrangement.

Apologies Norah, that's in response to agnurse.

If as you say Norah those who choose to go NC aren't really fussed about the perspective of those with whom they don't want a relationship with then why do some feel the need to goad and attempt to bully EP's on this forum?

It's those posters who appear to be obsessing, if not about the ones they've estranged, then about those on this forum who have been estranged. I hope the poster/posters we've seen very recently here on this thread, and other threads on this forum take your sound advice, and not allow those they've estranged or those of us on GN who have been estranged, to live rent-free in their own heads.

Far better for them to find other, more productive, activities.

Whiff

Your crafting is beautiful! When you said you were looking forward to 1 December so you can change your doorbell ring to the Christmas one, I was reminded of something I read online, I think in one of my online cross stitch groups. It mentioned a lady whose practice is that every year, when 1 December arrives, she drops whatever she's currently stitching and for the entire month of December all she stitches is Christmas-themed projects.

While that isn't something I do myself, holiday projects are some of my favourites. I am currently working on a beautiful Nativity scene. It's a Dimensions Gold Petites, so it's just a small one, but that's good in a way Dimensions Gold Collection is a series with beautiful designs, but they are all full coverage (you stitch every single square in the design; not a single one left blank) and they tend to be intricate so are a lot of work.

Smiles

In fairness, I think for many people who choose to go NC, they aren't really fussed about the perspective of those with whom they don't want a relationship. This is something I've heard from many people who have gone NC. Granted, I am aware that my perspective may be biased because many of these narratives do come from forums for people who are struggling with family relationships and it is entirely possible that those who are going NC for different reasons might choose not to post. We are estranged from my sister and BIL due to his (well-documented) abuse of her; the estrangement was not our choice. Based on my knowledge of people in similar situations, I suspect that her primary consideration was protecting herself from further abuse. (They live in another country where she doesn't have much support, and they have three children together. Without going into detail there is a sufficient travel distance that it simply would not be feasible for her to take the children and leave for our country and then for them to have visitation, plus there are other considerations I won't discuss for the sake of brevity.) We are also LC with my FIL and, sadly, I don't think he really cares much about this. Often, when people post on forums about struggling with going NC because of possible fallout, the advice they're given is not to give the other person headspace. If you choose not to have a relationship and you feel that that's necessary for your own mental health, then continuing to obsess over the other person is really just allowing them to live rent-free in your own head. Best to find other, more productive, activities.

Such saddo's how empty their lives must be . But I have no pity for them. They must very unhappy people and warped minds that they have to hurt others.

But they won't win . We are a strong supportive unit.

Kelly I echo Smiles thank you for acting so quickly .

Thank you Kelly for your post and for GN's prompt action, we're all very grateful.

I think they think the parents and anyone else they've estranged are in a constant state of pain and misery Sparkly and maybe it annoys them to think that maybe they're like us.

Yes of course it hurts, it always will but we're not allowing it to ruin the rest of our lives.

They seem to be desperate for something DL and if it's to disrupt this thread and put us off posting they're going to be disappointed aren't they.

You're right about the user names Grunty

Grunty

I'm quite enjoying their usernames! They tell their whole story without saying a thing!
Cue the next one being IfYou'reHappy&YouKnowItClapYourHands!

True lol 😉

I'm quite enjoying their usernames! They tell their whole story without saying a thing!
Cue the next one being IfYou'reHappy&YouKnowItClapYourHands!

Oof, this is getting silly now. This is def DL (it really is), just to say that these ACs, with a grudge against their EPs, must be getting desperate for attention now.🤷‍♀️

How sad that people can’t just get on with life happily.

My PM seemed to get hacked the other day, I just deleted and blocked.

Anyway, again, well done to GNHQ, for getting on top of this silliness so quickly. 👍

Hopefully these soppy people will go and find something useful to do soon. .🙄

Hope all having a lovely day 💐x

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Appropriate username there. You're right.

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On well done Grunty for spotting that. I thought it was very strange because of course we know Babs so yes Whiff I pm'd the imposter asking them to have the posts taken down, because nothing had happened, I reported the posts.

Yes, thank goodness GN are so quick to respond Bridie. This is very concerning so having been taken in, please everyone make sure you know who you're pm'ing.

Thanx everyone, thought I’d been hacked, just got word back from GN as well.
The imposter has been banned.
Worried that Smiles might be communicating with the imposter, though not possible now she might have been communicating with him/her beforehand.
Have just PM’d her.
These attacks are getting beyond a joke.
😡

Grunty not Grundy sorry.

I have just emailed GNHQ about the imposter and hopefully they will cancel BabsO3 username.
And I thave stressed Babs03 is the original owner of the username .

Made a point of what Grundy noticed capital O is imposter and 0 is our Babs .

Thankfully GN are deleting quicker, somebody really has a pathetic grudge against us estranged grans...poor soul, im sure they could use their talents elsewhere!!!

Grunty thanks for the explanation . I was concerned about Babs being deleted.

Smiles who did you send your PM to it must have been to the imposter 🤔

You haven't been hacked Babs; someone is so desperate to cause disruption and chaos amongst you that they've created a new account with a user name almost identical to yours. Your user name is Babs03. The disruptor was BabsO3. Subtle difference in the 0 and the O. They're getting desperate!

Babs03 I hope the op at GOSH goes well for your family. Thank you for your comment about your late DH and his garden.

I don’t know why some people can’t understand and be kind about Estrangement. On our sister page, going NC as a solution is mentioned not infrequently but what do they think happens to all the parents and siblings they NC?

Am in London just checked in can’t stay on long, I wasn’t deleted and haven’t received a PM from anyone, whoever posted is not me. Can’t sort it out now will try to do later but don’t engage with anyone pretending to be me. Not sure how I’ve been hacked is so annoying.
Am off to lunch.
Xx

Babs sorry you got deleted. I hope the removal of springs all goes well your grandson is in safe hands at GOSH. It always amazes how tough little ones are .

It was our teachers ideas to stuff the balloons she is very crafty in all sorts of things . I just do what you am told.
Hope your friend love your new home Smiles and it stays dry.

At least it's dry here today just cold .