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Smileless2012 Tue 08-Oct-24 11:21:15

Our current thread is about to reach 1000 posts so for all the regulars keep on posting and for anyone who hasn't joined us yet, a warm welcome awaits.

Allsorts Sat 28-Dec-24 08:34:28

I couldn't see a link Whiff.
Bridie, Sorry you're a bit down, perhaps it is a case of back to the old routine after the build up. Sometimes I just get tired of trying.
I have eaten far too much so won’t look at the scales for a fortnight, but looking forward to no cakes or chocolates as I have scoffed them. 2025 will be the year I regain my size 14. Unable to do my walking last year I put on weight. Also the start of being kind to myself and try to not over think everything it doesn't after anything
Enjoy your day everyone..

Bridie22 Sat 28-Dec-24 08:20:01

Thanks Whiff, definitely a bit deflated, so will have a looksy πŸ‘

Whiff Sat 28-Dec-24 07:52:00

Anyone feeling down this morning this appeared under my Google list Discover. It's a link to Lolly Adefope Letters live on you tube . Very funny well I thought it was . Brilliant take on 12 days of Christmas and the breakdown of a relationship. 🀣

Babs03 Wed 25-Dec-24 09:31:23

Love to you all πŸŽ„πŸŽ„

Yoginimeisje Wed 25-Dec-24 09:13:14

Thanks for sharing your good news Jaffa You can all now enjoy your Xmas xx

Yoginimeisje Wed 25-Dec-24 09:11:31

tchgrin MERRY CHRISTMAS tchgrin
and
tchbiscuit HAPPY NEW YEAR tchbiscuit
to all
XXXXXXXX

Whiff Wed 25-Dec-24 05:39:18

Merry Christmas to you all, have the best day you can and look forward to a better year in 2025. πŸ₯‚πŸŽ„β›„πŸ’

Babs03 Tue 24-Dec-24 19:57:50

A very merry Xmas to all πŸŽ„πŸŽ„πŸŽ…πŸŽ…
And most importantly here’s to a calm and healthy new year.
As you say Spring we carry sadness within us but we can also find purpose and meaning in our lives and be content with the love around us and the life we build for ourselves.
Take care fellow survivors and if you feel a bit low over this Xmas period know that you are not alone.
And thanks to everyone who welcomed me to this thread. Your support and advice has been much appreciated.
πŸŽπŸŽ„πŸŽ„πŸ™πŸΎπŸ™πŸΎ

Babs03 Tue 24-Dec-24 19:50:58

Jaffacake2

Dear friends I wasn't going to come back to this thread due to the hateful troll messages. But I must just share my best Christmas present ever.
My youngest daughter had just received the results that her ovarian tumour was benign. I am so relieved and happy.
I met with my older daughter yesterday with the kids to take them to a show and out for pizza. She was remote but the kids were very sweet and cuddly with me and R. Plus I managed to walk up the hill to the theatre without using a stick.
Thank you all for being by my side,virtually, throughout last 6 months.
Happy Christmas xxx

Yay!!
Great news.
Enjoy Xmas day!!
πŸ‘πŸ½πŸ‘πŸ½πŸ‘πŸ½πŸ«ΆπŸ½

Whiff Tue 24-Dec-24 15:12:42

Jaffacake that's the best Christmas present you and your daughter could have. You can both look forward to 2025 without fear of the results .

Glad you got time to spend time with your grandchildren even if your daughter was remote.

Have a wonderful Christmas with your Irish friend and new year .
Brilliant you walked without your stick. I daren't walk outside even to the bin without mine .

Spring so true but we carry on living our lives the best way we can.

πŸŽ„πŸ₯‚β›„πŸŽπŸΎ

Smileless2012 Tue 24-Dec-24 13:58:09

Thank you for sharing the wonderful news about your DD Jaffa, that must be the best Christmas present you could have hope for.

'Merry Christmas' to you all xx

Allsorts Tue 24-Dec-24 12:07:01

Jaffa, what wonderful news, best present you could have. To all of you lucky to have loved ones to enjoy Christmas Day together, Merry Christmas. If theres anyone on their own, I. don't think so, but Happy Christmas to you too and if you are just looking wondering about joining us do. There is a a thread, Alone for Christmas for those that are on their own and you can chat with others..πŸŽ…πŸΌxx

Spring20 Tue 24-Dec-24 11:58:32

A very happy Xmas to you all….we carry sadness but that doesn’t exclude finding happiness. In fact, it often makes it more precious! Look after yourselves!

SparklyGrandma Tue 24-Dec-24 11:51:24

Afternoon everyone, it’s fallen to a hush here. Everything is bright but still.

I have my Christmas delivery around 2pm. Only one substitution - they are giving me profiteroles dessert instead of a trifle I ordered.

I know we each have our internal pain to deal with but please have a good and merry Christmas in spite of the circumstances.

Thank you Whiff and Babs.

Bridie22 Tue 24-Dec-24 11:45:47

Jaffacake2...that is the best xmas pressie,
Wishing you all best wishes for a happy Christmas and a good New yearπŸŽ…

Jaffacake2 Tue 24-Dec-24 11:15:54

Dear friends I wasn't going to come back to this thread due to the hateful troll messages. But I must just share my best Christmas present ever.
My youngest daughter had just received the results that her ovarian tumour was benign. I am so relieved and happy.
I met with my older daughter yesterday with the kids to take them to a show and out for pizza. She was remote but the kids were very sweet and cuddly with me and R. Plus I managed to walk up the hill to the theatre without using a stick.
Thank you all for being by my side,virtually, throughout last 6 months.
Happy Christmas xxx

Whiff Tue 24-Dec-24 09:44:56

Just typed in brain charity you tube but only got brain tumour charity which isn't the same .

Bridie22 Tue 24-Dec-24 08:15:08

Happy Xmas Whiff you super celebrity!! Will have a looksy on you tube later, well done for doing the video you will help many other people.
Have a lovely Christmas everybody, πŸŽ…πŸŽ„πŸΈ

Yoginimeisje Tue 24-Dec-24 07:57:49

Thank you Spotty Merry Xmas to you & Hapy New Year. flowers

Whiff Tue 24-Dec-24 07:38:14

As usual a page behind 🀦.
Babs have a lovely meal with all the family . Special occasions you always notice when someone is missing . But they made their choice . Unfortunately we are the ones who suffer the consequences. But it makes those who love and care for us all the more precious. And shows we are not the ones at fault as we didn't choose this our children did .

But it's Christmas so everyone have a wonderful time and celebrate in our own way .

Babs gingerbread lumps delicious. The children do love the sugary stuff but they had fun with their nannie and that's what counts.

I think I said I made a video for the Brain Charity about what they helped me with and how I feel about going there and about my HPX. Had an email yesterday asking if they could send my story to be published in our local paper . But said no because of being estranged from my son . I sent him a copy of of my neurologists letter with my diagnosis had sent a text telling him it was coming and not to send it back unopened. This was 2 years ago and had silence .

As he doesn't want me to know about his life I don't want him to know about mine. I am no longer the mom he knew . If he hoped to destroy me he has failed as I am stronger in mind if not body than I was 4.5 years ago.

My video is on you tube the Brain Charity site . Didn't realise it would be on there but am proud of it . As I don't sound to black country and sounded intelligent 🀣🀣🀣🀣. Well as much as I can achieve.

Anyway happy Christmas dear friends and hope 2025 is a good year for us all. β›„πŸŽ„πŸ₯‚πŸΎπŸ’

Whiff Tue 24-Dec-24 07:14:22

Happy wedding anniversary Babs and Mr B🍾πŸ₯‚. Hope you have a great day.

SparklyGrandma sorry missed you out yesterday. Always love reading your posts .

Jaffacake have a wonderful Irish Christmas and hope your daughter is healing well and she can have the best Christmas she can while waiting for her histology results . πŸŽ„β›„

Bridie22 Mon 23-Dec-24 21:05:05

Sounds like a lovely day Babs03πŸ™‚πŸŽ…πŸŽ„

Babs03 Mon 23-Dec-24 19:43:59

Btw the gingerbread men were gingerbread lumps and the GCs ate the icing before using it.
But was hilarious fun πŸ˜‚

Babs03 Mon 23-Dec-24 19:42:52

Smiles, Whiff, Allsorts, Bridie, Yogi, Sparkly and all others on here. Thanks for being there.
It matters.
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Babs03 Mon 23-Dec-24 19:39:53

Evening all πŸŽ„
Hoping all are bearing up. Always feel a bit emotional but determined not to let it spoil anything for others. Out for anniversary meal tomorrow with the family, will be lunch because the GCs don’t do dinner very well, too late for them.
Sorry about your friend Smiles, shingles is horrible. And you are wise to say you will not make Xmas plans in future, is all too easy gif them to be scuppered, am just happy my lot are well this year. Last year was a bit tricky with some getting covid at Xmas.
@whiff and sparkly wish you could taste the cakes, those who have eaten it so far are digging into it with relish. Not sure there will be much left for those coming aft Xmas so need to bake again.
Sorry you are leaving Jaffa, but understand why, please do drop in in the new
year sometime, wishing you a wonderful Xmas and New Year too.
@Scotty you made me shed a tear, wishing you peace and calm in the coming year. As have said b4 tomorrow we will light a candle in a local church for our daughter and GCs, and also for all estranged parents/grandparents on here. My heart goes out to you. πŸŒΊπŸ™πŸΎπŸ™πŸΎ

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