Newbie but not to estrangement

Utterly unbelievable that people could hijack a threat about Estranged parents/grandparents and make cruel and callous comments. Keyboard warriors and their actions say more about them and their cruel minds.. And if their mature women then even more shame on you.

You can never be replaced as a mother that's lovely BlessedArt and so true.

I'm sorry you are also living with family fracture. It's not what anyone ever envisages happening to their family .

It can take time to find the right therapist for you Flipityflop so don't give up.

@Flippityflop,

I am really sorry you are hurting now. It seems like your pain is still so raw. I really felt the words as I read them.

You can never be replaced as a mother. In adulthood, our children form different bonds with different people, but nothing erases the time you brought your child up.

While I cannot say I am personally fully estranged, I can say that I understand the far-reaching consequences of family fracture. I am living it. Sometimes we need an outlet to get all the feelings out without judgement or personal bias from the listener. I know you have tried counselling, but perhaps a different therapist can help. They are like anything else in life where one may not fit but you another will.

I truly wish you the best. This season can be so hard when families are broken. I hope you can take even a small amount of comfort in those relationships that are still intact.

Missed that one Grunty as you say GNHQ are on it like a bonnet .

I also echo what Smileless said, there must be EACs out there looking for support and put off by the abusive nastiness, indeed this is no reflection at all upon them and would encourage anybody estranged to come forward for estrangement affects very many people not just EPs or even just EACs.

Grunty

A new thread was started this afternoon; same old garbage. Don't think it got even one response before it was zapped! GNHQ are on it like a bonnet lately!

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A new thread was started this afternoon; same old garbage. Don't think it got even one response before it was zapped! GNHQ are on it like a bonnet lately!

Well I find it hard to believe Babs but it's happening isn't it.

Maybe it's not just EP's being scared off, EAC who want to share and do so without attacking the EP's on this forum may also be deterred.

We have over the years had some informative and mutually supportive discussions with some EAC. Perhaps as well as wanting to silence EP's there's also a desire to prevent any meaningful discourse between those who have been estranged, and those who have done so.

I cannot believe that anyone would have anything but contempt for those deleted by GN for being abusive on a support thread or anything but sympathy for those who were targeted.
And I feel most sorry for the OP who must now have retreated having seen such a barrage of insults and worse, I feel that many estranged EPs who would benefit greatly from this forum because they desperately need support are being scared off. Which is obscene.

Your support was greatly appreciated pascal, I hadn't realised you post had been withdrawn and see it was because it quoted a post that was deleted so no reflection on you.

I would be hard pressed to explain them now and will not indeed Luminance but not hard pressed to say of those who responded to posts that are no longer there that they look rather bad themselves.

If comments cannot be read and understood clearly in their first instance, I would be hard pressed to explain them now and will not.

Smileless2012

Well as you've missed the dramatics Luminance you have no idea why some of the responses that remain were made have you.

The only individuals who look bad are the ones that have posts deleted, and perhaps anyone who feels that the unpleasantness that this thread has attracted is akin to excitement.

I didn't say anything unpleasant in fact I was supporting you, but I had my post withdrawn..

Well as you've missed the dramatics Luminance you have no idea why some of the responses that remain were made have you.

The only individuals who look bad are the ones that have posts deleted, and perhaps anyone who feels that the unpleasantness that this thread has attracted is akin to excitement.

I would hope that none of us were forced to live by others expectations. I have my own view of what I read.

I did indeed read it.
Very nice.
But not always in keeping with your views on here. Like I said I could be wrong.
I hope that I am.

It appears you have misread me, I would direct you to the response I made before the dramatics started.

@Luminance, just curious, on other forums where I have come across you posting you seem kind and generous with your advice. But there seems to be a change of tone on some threads on this forum, quite out of character in fact, yet only with regard to EPs.
Perhaps you have an axe to grind but are simply happy to see others wield the axe.
Just making an observation, could be completely wrong but I don’t think I am alone in this.

Luminance

It looks like I have missed the dramatics once again. Reading through it does make individuals look rather bad themselves responding to nothing. Hey ho, some seem to like the excitement.

I wouldn’t call it dramatics, is extremely hurtful and upsetting for EPs to have abuse hurled at them. And is not exciting either.
But hey ho we seem to inhabit very different worlds.

It looks like I have missed the dramatics once again. Reading through it does make individuals look rather bad themselves responding to nothing. Hey ho, some seem to like the excitement.

Thank you ToeToe [thcsmile]

Toetoe

❤️ for you all x

Thanks
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Smileless2012

It's heartening to see the nastiness here being called out by posters who are not estranged as well as by those who are.

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FriedGreenTomatoes2

My heartfelt best wishes to all here suffering anguish because of estrangement.

Who ARE these gorgons who sit to feast on the despair of others? They just sicken me.

Best to ignore and report, as you do but I have to say they disgust me.

I’m with you FGT

Ziggy The whole point of my post earlier was to support the OP and suggest that by ignoring the trolls it may help. But I'll keep my thoughts on this very emotional subject to myself in future

Ziggy Your comment was helpful and supportive and generally not responding to trolls is a good strategy. Occasionally a follow up to the daft but very unkind comments plus reporting can make a point. I am sure your support is appreciated so please dont keep your thoughts to yourself

❤️ for you all x