Hope your hand is healing Whiff, I know you won’t like any limitations this puts upon you.
Take care ❤️
Heatwave now, but what’s the betting…?
So here we are again, another thread for friends we've already made and for those we are yet to meet.
The last few days have been difficult because for as long as some of us have been contributing to the support threads, offensive posts from these 'new' members still not only disrupt, but can hurt too.
'The truth shall set you free' popped into my head over the weekend because these 'new' members/trolls/previously banned posters are not being truthful to us here on this forum or possibly to themselves either.
In order for the truth to free us we have to be honest because honesty and truthfulness can liberate us from all kinds of emotional baggage like guilt and fear and also the impact of deception on our lives.
Guilt often prevents 'admitting' to estrangement in the first place and many live with the fear of permanent estrangement, that estrangement is inevitable or the fear of what a reconciliation my bring.
The impact that the deception from those who lie about us to others is sometimes unquantifiable as is the impact of lying to themselves.
What we share may not always be pretty, it may not always be easy to share or to read but it does help ourselves, one another and who knows how many who read but never post and that I believe is what really matters.
Hope your hand is healing Whiff, I know you won’t like any limitations this puts upon you.
Take care ❤️
Happy anniversary Smiles and Mr S. Bet you are so glad you moved!
Raise a glass 🥃 in celebration.
Our house is up for sale again and the family helping us find a nice bungalow, but doubt it will happen anytime soon which is good because Mr B is still really unwell and needs a lot more time to recover and have a procedure on his heart.
Allsorts your neighbour sounds awful, as has been said can you build a fence, it will be an expense but perhaps money well spent. Wishing you well with that.
Yogi - what is it with giant trampolines, lots of gardens have them near us, in the last house we lived in the children would stand and stare straight into our garden, because they are so high, there was no privacy. Also kids soon lose interest and they are left to gather leaves and mildew at the bottom of the garden.
Good luck to them assembling it 🫤
Happy anniversary Smiles
One year in paradise!
Whiff hope your hand is improving xx
Allsorts is there not a fence between your gardens? When I first moved here, there was a low fence about 4ft, but no gate, so I put a gate in and felt relief once I had. But now we need higher fences & gate. The fence in the middle belongs to upstairs and when I asked her if she would be getting higher fences she replied 'No'. Getting just a higher gate will look a bit odd, but I think I will have to. We had new fences put in on our side, left, only Oct before last, so I'm not up for buying theirs too.
To keep good neighbours; build high fences
Morning all
Really sorry to read that Allsort, good neighbours are so important aren't they. I was chatting to one of my regular students and she has a problem with hers. Where she lives was designed for over 50s but young families have been moving in, families of 5 in a one bed flat! so same as me. They park over her driveway and won't move, big vans and all.
My upstairs neighbour had a huge parcel delivered during the week, her dad & mum where there, looking after the children whilst they were at work. I came back home to see the dad, having opened the 2 big boxes, scratching his head in confusion. When she returned home, she went straight into the garden, exclaiming OMG. I'm guessing it's the giant trampoline she has spoken of
. They must have thought it was partly constructed, instead; big boxes full of single metal poles etc.
. I fear an invation this morning as she rallys all her family to come and assemble
.
Yes Smikeless have new ones. Just have to accept the good days here have gone.
Are many people on your development there all year? It seems you have made good friends, is it the sort of place
you could live when quite old?
Hope Whiff is alright, she loves her craft work and baking and doubt she can do much of those with her burns, so if you are looking Whiff and I know typing is hard right now, sending you a big hug and hope all healed very soon.
Afternoon everyone.
How's your hand Whiff? I hope it's getting better.
Is that a new neighbour Allsorts? Have you had problems before? It's a real dilemma isn't it. We did report the dance studio where we used to live and had to say so when we were selling our house last year.
Fortunately the couple who bought it have a daughter and she was a member so they were already aware of the issues we had. I sometimes wonder if they're as laid back about the noise now they're living there.
Well yesterday was the first anniversary of our move here. Hard to believe it's been a year already and to celebrate we went out for a lovely meal with two other couples, who came here at the same time. One is here all the time like we are and we've become very good friends as have our dogs
. They are officially aunty A and aunty L.
Enjoy the bank holiday everyone.
Yogin, I now have a neighbour that is a problem. He seems to think my garden is his and I have not slept for three nights at the damage he has caused, i cant report him for trespass and malicious damage as I couldn't sell my house. Its a nightmare.
Oh Whiff so very sorry, must be very painful! 
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Thanks Whiff. It’s nice to know who I am talking to! You’re miles away from me. I’m in East Kent.
And I certainly think you are hilarious!
Crossstitchfan I am English and a woman . Lived first 61 years in black country but last 6 in north west not far from the sea. And 67.
My daughter and grandsons think I am hilarious but not when I am trying to be funny 🤣🤣🤣
Sorry SparklyGrandma (lovely name). My message meant for Whiff has latched itself onto you! No idea how but sorry for the intrusion!
SparklyGrandma
My cats have had a slice of premium roast chicken each this evening. I swear both are smiling in their sleep.😴
Whiff,
I just wanted to thank you for your posts because they always make me laugh!
I can’t work out if you are male or female, British or American, old or young, but thank you anyway! Xx
Oh Whiff you are in the wars lately, please be careful and look after yourself, hope it heals soon xx
Oh Whiff that'll be painful
.
Babs x
Thanks for kind words Smiles, Yogi, and Bridie.
Hope you recover soon Sparkly.
Love to all ❤️
Oh no!
So sorry Whiff, that looks really sore, take care of yourself 😞🙏🏾❤️
Be missing until I heal had accident with my kettle this morning it's a bugger using left hand
Hello everyone.
Hope you'll feel better soon Sparkly
.
I'll see of Mr. S. can put on a pic of the vases but the last time he tried to put one on for me it didn't work
.
I'm so sorry you've had such a stressful weekend Babs. It really isn't good enough when you've been through so much already. Picturing you holding Matt's hand until he fell asleep bought tears to me eyes
. I hope you managed to get some satisfaction when you 'phoned the consultant's secretary today.
It was a good journey home yesterday and we were home by 2.00 pm, the holiday was 'just what the doctor ordered' but it's lovely to be home again.
You're right Allsorts about how cruel some people can be. You'd think there would be enough pain and suffering in the world, without inflicting it just because you can
.
Whiff ((( hug )))
Have infection, better reply over the week. Smileless
All my family have been cremated but if I lived in a village with family around I would be buried and like tge photograph on the headstone. I miss my husband all the time and don't find anniversaries so upsetting now, birthdays get to me remembering happy times together. Same with my parents I remember their birthdays and out flowers by their photograph.
Would love to meet up with all of you some time but somewhere central. Going on a coach break later in year as its almost door to door, no taxi, train, then taxi again, it's all the waiting about and I find it stressful all the waiting, same with driving long distances, used to do it but no more. Fifty mile radius from my home enough.
There used to be Bristol Support Group, a lovely lady ran it but had to stop as her husband became unwell, I often think of her and wonder if they got to see the granddaughter they adored but never saw, how are people so cruel? , I would resent my parents if they had stopped me from seeing mine,they were a major part of my life.
Lucky girl Smile, I always say that saying; this too shall pass.
That is really bad Babs, couldn't they have got you in with another consultant, they must know how difficult it all must have been for you all and they must have known you were on your way there
.
Whiff isn't it funny the little things we keep, I've kept lots of things like the once your DH saved, but not the toilet seat
.
Well, it's a lot cooler today, meeting up with a few friends for lunch, so we may be able to sit in the gardens if it stays cool.
Nice weekend all xx
Sorry you had such worry, desperate when you cannot contact those you need for information.
I hope you have a peaceful weekend
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