Support and friendship for those whose lives have been affected by estrangement.

Afternoon everyone.

Sorry you've been unwell Sparkly of course these aren't as lovely as the ones in your photo, but it's the thought
that counts .

Hope you're all doing OK and that you're feeling better Whiff. Popped some clothes into a charity shop today and thought I'd spend a few minutes looking through the DVD's and found the original 'A Star is Born'.

Absolutely thrilled (Mr. S. not so much) as I love it and have the album on vinyl but will have to wait until Mr. S. is out before watching.

Thanks Sparkly but I think the person having trouble with her daughter and house is Babylon. Can understand the confusion though, at first I thought was a troll using a name similar to mine. But don’t think it is.
Hope you feel better soon, and let’s hope your referral comes through soon.
Take care 🙏🏾❤️

Afternoon fellow Estrangees,

How are you all? Sorry to hear Babs about the relationship with your daughter and her house. Awful.

Sorry to hear about quick passing of relatives Smileless.
The hot weather has been hard to deal with but a good point is I had and am having a juicy blueberry season. Only one of my three bushes is bearing.

Been recovering from a bit of illness and hospital visit. My legs and ankles don’t give a patella reflex. They’ve been feeling a bit numb but have been referred. My herniated disc is probably causing this problem in the legs.

But I remain cheerful and send you all friend wishes.

Sparkly xx

Missing your rambles Whiff, I hope you are on the mend ?
Take care 💐

Sorry to hear you are not well Whiff, sending plenty of heartfelt get well wishes your way.
Yogi you’ll enjoy your dance another time am sure. Haven’t been to a dance since I was a youngster, sounds like fun ✅xxx

Morning everyone. Thought you were being extra brave Yogin. I do go for some things in my own now, stop for a break if out shopping or joining a group everyone, people welcoming so soon got speaking to people.. Looking for something new September. I think for a lot of people estranged it leaves a big void and you need to get out.
Whiff, hope you are feeling loads better.
Smileless, difficult time for you, thinking of you.
Babs, hope your husband is doing well after latest scare. Glad temperature cooled a little, it's do uncomfortable in that heat when bed bound.

Morning all

I was going with a friend who is a member of the club Allsorts, I wouldn't go anywhere on my own, rather stay home than do that. Had a nice lunch with my sister at Lakeside.

Nice Sunday everyone.

You're very brave going to a summer dance alone Yoga in the first place. Hope you enjoy Lakeside. I am going to start going to concerts on my own, I know no one who wants to go so feel I am missing out.

Wish you better Whiff

Off to Lakeside to meet my sister for lunch, hope the roads are OK. Was going to a 'summer dance party' yesterday, but was told Wednesday they were over subscribed and asked for my bank details to refund my £25 ticket money. I did book quite late and as I'm a guest not a member; suppose it was last in first out. I was looking forward to it but just thought 'oh, well'. Then got a call at 5.30pm yesterday to say they had a spare slot afterall. I was in the middle of hoovering and cleaning and had told my son I would cook dinner as soon as I'd finished, so said a polite 'no' to the offer as wasn't ready. Then I was annoyed as I'd put it out of my mind, to now think I'd missed a good night out .

Sorry you're not very well Whiff; take care .

Hope you feel better soon Whiff, take good care of yourself 💐

Sorry you are not too good at the moment Whiff. 🤞 you are soon your old self.

Smiles so sorry about your cousins . That's the problem with pancreatic cancer it hits and kills quicky . You will help the family cope with their grieve .

Sorry only just read . Not very well at the moment. But I will be back to my usual self soon.

Hi to everyone else

If I had a choice in how I would die, I would choose quickly every time. Mine, even my estranged d, know I love them and although far from perfect did my best at the time. I had to be the breadwinner so they didn't have what others did, i didn't have the time either. They had a strong work ethic and I was envious of friends who went on fun girly breaks with their daughter and son did dad things. One is grateful the other not so. Both excellent in their careers and happily married. I have come to terms with my faults but it helps they are both able to enjoy what we couldn't. Be a good friend so when we do lose them or they us there's good memories and no regrets. Smileless your cousin had their perfect partner and happiness and the anticipation of dreams to fulfil. Not everyone gets that.

That’s very sad Smileless, I’m so sorry. We lost a friend in his 50s to pancreatic cancer a few years ago - he survived 18 months after diagnosis & it was such a very long, drawn-out & torturous time for him & his family….i’m not sure which is worse 😔.

Morning everyone and many thanks for your kind and supportive messages.

We are so thankful that he didn't have to suffer for a long period and my cousin, who was with him at the end said it was very peaceful. His daughters who'd been with him all night had left for just 10 minutes but maybe that's what he needed to let go.

The speed with which we can lose loved ones is frightening isn't it Allsorts. They had great plans to buy a motor home and travel abroad; so very sad .

I agree with all the above. Don’t put off till tomorrow what you really want to do right now, do it and enjoy every minute of it. If there is a loved one you have put off seeing go and see them now, and let them know how much you love them.
Sad to hear you lost loved ones so suddenly Allsorts, makes it so hard to come to terms with it but then I ask myself whether seeing a loved one suffering with a terminal illness for a long period of time is any better or far worse.
Never easy.
Take care all 🙏🏾❤️

Smileless so sorry to hear that. You are right - it does remind us to make the most of who and what we have x

Allsorts sorry to read about your family's quick deaths, terrible! xx

Smiles hope you are OK today xx

Gosh Smileless that was so quick, so sorry for your loss, take care 💐

Sad news Smileless. It is very hard for your cousin having his partner snatched away so quickly.. Everyone apart from my husband in my family have had sudden deaths, most after just two weeks after diagnosis. The worst was my mother, so sudden and so young. You are in shock yourself.

So sorry Smiles. Thoughts are with you and the rest of the family 🙏🏾❤️❤️

Sorry to read your sad news Smiles. Condolences to you and all he's family xx

Morning all.

Very sad news this morning. My cousin's partner of 8 years has died of pancreatic cancer. He began feeling unwell 8 weeks ago and was diagnosed 4 weeks later. The speed with which it's taken his life is frightening and again reminds us how precious life is and why we must make the most of who and what we have.

Belated birthday wishes, hope you had a lovely day 🎂🎁🍷