Support and friendship for those whose lives have been affected by estrangement.

Morning everyone, great to see that the new thread's got off to a flying start .

It's so good to know that you're coming back from a very dark place Mati but I'm so sorry that you've been there . I, as I'm sure we all do, remember what that dark place looks and feels like and the real fear that it brings.

The emotional shock of being so hated was like and you couldn't say what it was like. I don't think any of us can put that into words which makes what you've said all the more poignant .

Thank you GN for the speedy deletion. I think you're right Whiff that they must hate the fact this thread is still going and strong as ever and maybe that we are still going despite being estranged.

I noticed that the same poster was deleted on a thread started by an EAC so it makes you wonder what exactly it is that they want .

Mr. S. finished 'making good' yesterday where the pocket door was removed so there's just the wall to paint this morning before it gets too hot. He'll have to paint the whole wall or there'll be a noticeable difference even though it's white on white.

Had a lovely meal out at the Italian last night we've been going too for years; ever since it opened. It's great to be here for a few days and feels as if we've gone full circle as this small market town is where we were married and had our first home.

Have a good day everyone, keep cool and stay hydrated.

At least it was deleted v quickly.

They are a pain Whiff, but we will just keep reporting.

Oh dear we have a trouble maker again . That didn't take long . Must hate the fact this thread is still going and strong as ever.

Bridie22

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Also by me. Hopefully will be removed soon.

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Hi Whiff
Take care of yourself. Love and best wishes.❤️

Mati sorry you have had a bad time . Thankfully you have your husband and adult child. My son estranged me and sent me the email knowing they had found a problem with my heart. I have a hole in the side I was born with .

I have never felt guilty about the estrangement because I didn't do anything wrong . And when people ask me if I have children always say 2 and 5 grandson's. If they ask if I see them then I tell them the truth and have been amazed at how many people are estranged from their children or other family members.

Thanks to this thread estrangement is no longer taboo. Just look at what the King is going through .

Glad you have found new hobbies and have nice people to hang out with. I go to a sit fit class,move it or lose class,craft group and chat and cuppa . I am a cross stitcher. I found it relieved my stress when looking after my mom . Plus it's the only time my hands don't shake no idea why. 🌹

Thank you Whiff, Smileless, and all the Warriors who are helping to bring self worth and self respect back to us who are now estranged.

I am returning from a very dark place and apparently, am still trolled on sm and asked about things I have no knowledge about in public! I am not on sm, apart from GN today.

Mentally, I am almost back to myself but my physical health took a big hit. The emotional shock of being so hated was like - what did I we do to deserve such nastiness? Such ridicule. I can only think of by joining a new family, they have to disown the original?

However, there is light at the end of the tunnel. People are kind and I am beginning to realize I love my new hobbies and I have found some nice people to hang out with. I am also grateful to an old friend who gave support, as well as, my other adult child and husband. I am convinced once you realize you are OK and are not this awful person (with no evidence)! You are still stung by even the accusations and mockery, by someone you love and once cared for so much.
Sometimes you need to realize you need extra support, and whether it is from therapy or from a support group like this, you must not lose your authentic self and the truth. 💐

Lovely to see this thread going strong. I'm six years estranged now but still have wobbly moments. I regularly read on here and am sad/annoyed when the stupid trolls try to cause disruption. But they seem to be dealt with pretty effectively!
Please keep on with the good work. With best wishes to all living with Estrangement.

Awww Mr. S. loved the mental image your post created Whiff .

Mati glad this thread helped you. I know how much it became a lifeline for me . But it's not a doom and gloom group. Estrangement brought us together but it's friendship that's keeps us together . I hope you stay and it's not just estrangement but about what we are doing. For me I let go of my son 2 years ago I decided the only one hurting was me . After he estranged me in May 2020. And been happier.

Unfortunately the trolls will be back Mati but they can't get rid of this thread. It's to strong . An old poster called us Warrior Queens some didn't like the description but I loved it .

I saw Smiles in a chariot fur cape flying behind her leading the rest of us. Yes I know I am odd🤣

A new thread - and hopefully a new beginning with no more trolls/previously banned posters and lots of support, understanding and constructive advice for posters old and new 🙂

Thank you Smileless2012 and DL. 💐
I have read and appreciated your sensible suggestions to others for a while and I could find comfort that I was not the only one going through this. Please do not let these malicious trolls stop your life line of support. I love that you have this forum. Truth will hopefully come out (eventually)!

We cannot fix someone who blames others for being unhappy you're right Mati whether they're people we know and love, or strangers on line.

I hope you will find peace and happiness as your health and sanity gradually recovers .

As we know DL it takes time but once the healing begins, happiness is just on the horizon .

Thank you for the new thread Smileless, and thanks to the lovely regulars who are always there with their support, long may it continue x

Thank you for such a supportive and refreshingly honest post and forum. Estrangement and the hurt and shame it entails is not an easy thing to live with. We are still reeling from the smear campaign and as far as we know, we did the best we could. But now have to walk away for our sanity and health. We can not fix someone who blames others for being unhappy.

I agree, Smileless - if they’re happy and healed after estranging, they should be leading happy lives, as most of us do, on here, whether as estranger or ones that have been estranged. 🙄

Bit sad really, but luckily, they’re pretty easy to spot.

The “stories” get sillier and more extreme. 🤷‍♀️

Hope everyone is well. x💐