My son will not allow me access to my granddaughter

I don’t blame my ex spouse. And I wasn’t with my new husband when my son left the business . Just finding it hard not seeing and speaking to him.

We fell out 10 years ago , but has since got married and had a daughter. He wanted to run the business alone, but it was a family business split between my ex husband and me, my son worked for us.

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Sometimes you just have to let go and accept they do not want you in their life. It is sad and hurtful but in the long run the only way. It took me a long time to accept I no longer had a brother- like you presents were returned unopened to me. I agonised over it for some time and then stopped trying to communicate with someone who did not want to communicate with me. That was 10 years ago.

It sounds like you two have different perspectives on what happened with the business. He told you what the problem was. I imagine being told it didn't happen that way doesn't do much to resolve his feelings about it.

Honestly I think you should move on. His stance is clear. A lot of estranged parents blame the spouse but in my experience, meeting my spouse opened my eyes to what love is supposed to feel like. I started to think about how loved ones are supposed to ask. Eventually I wouldn't take my perspective being dismissed or brushed under the rug anymore.

A healthy relationship needs repair after rupture. You can't repair without considering the other person's perspective even if you disagree with it.

It may have been triggered by the new relationship but it wasn't my husbands influence that led to my decision.

Good luck and I hope you find happiness in the family you have right now. It sounds like there's a lot of joy to be had in it.

Hello, Pening, and I’m so sorry that you are in this position - I have been too & it is utterly heartbreaking. It is very brave of you to post on here.
Are you wanting to hear others’ experiences of how to deal with life after estrangement, or to have people suggest ways to end the estrangement?

So you had a falling out 10 years ago, then 7 years ago he ceased contact because he claimed you took over his business. And you think his wife is to blame for his abandoning you, despite the fact that you weren't at the wedding and have never met her. Is that what I am understanding?