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It is indeed and very upsetting situation.
I don't understand why your daughter has anything to do with the person who abused her, especially as he went to prison for it.
Did she give evidence against him?

I cannot see how your daughter had a secure and happy childhood whilst being secretly abused by her own father.

Sarah, I am so sorry you are going through this. Your daughter is still the victim and being controlled. If he was imprisoned for abuse report him to the police to protect your grandchildren, he shouldn't be anywhere near them. Your daughter isn't thinking straight and her children are potential victims, they come first in all this.

sarahr, my heart goes out you. I have no expertise in this area - fortunately for me! The love you have for your daughter is evident and the pain you are going through is unimaginable!
butterandjam has provided sound information, I hope that helps. I send ((( hugs )))) and good wishes.
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sarah - I understand how you feel

It's terrible that one abusive man can continue to abuse all his victims ( daughter and wife) for the rest of his worthless life.

Now he's going to do it to his daughters children too.

Surely, as a convicted child abuser he must be on the sex offenders register for life? Why don't you inform his ( and your daughter's) local police that he has talked his way back into contact with his victim and her children are at risk.

Where is the father of your grandchildren in this mess?

You, and he, could both make a Sarah's Law request to the police to protect the children. Whatever your ex has told your daughter and her partner the police will reveal the undeniable facts of his criminal conviction.

www.sarsas.org.uk/resources/sarahs-law/

"What is Sarah’s Law?

Sarah’s Law, or the Child Sex Offender Disclosure Scheme allows parents, carers and guardians to ask the police to tell them if someone has a criminal record for child sexual offences.

If police checks show the individual has a record for child sexual offences, or other offences that might put the child at risk, the police will consider sharing this information.

The police will only consider telling the person best placed to protect the child – usually a parent, carer or guardian – if the person being checked has a record of child sexual offences or other offences that indicate they may pose a risk to a child. The police will disclose information only if it is lawful, necessary and proportionate to do so in the interests of protecting the child, or children, from harm.
How do I put in an application?

You can do this in person at your local police station or by calling 101."

You dont say the type of abuse your daughter suffered but if her father served a sentence I assume it was serious.
Once a child abuser always an abuser, so if you have real concerns about your daughter and more importantly now, her children’s safety, you have to consider reporting this. You could start with a chat with nspcc if you are reluctant to contact the police directly.
It may come to nothing but at least you will know you have done your best.

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So sorry Sarahr, your love for your daughter leaps off the page as does your pain.
Sending much love 🌹🙏🏾

That's so sad Sarahr 💐🥀

Oh dear 😢 that is so very sad I m sending a big hug your way 🤗

Sarahr .