Social media

Oh Please!!!

I hope you get to see your grandchildren. Good Luck! Not easy.

If there is no order, surely your son sees them?

They are teenagers with internet access. Their Granny and Dad could set up their own FB pages and hope that natural curiosity and FB search will bring the teens to them.

What Granny and Dad put on their own FB pages is no business of ex-Dil and it's a safe easy way to let the teens know what's going on in dad's life with no "conflict of interest" from their mother.

In just a couple of years , they will be young adults making their own decisions.

Firstly from the sound of it, both you and your son would like contact with the children.
So do you have their address ? Could you write to your ex Dil. Be honest and say you would love to be able to have some contact with them, be it via social media or a meet up etc. Perhaps explain what it would mean to you. Be careful not to get drawn into fault and blame of split. After all whatever caused the breakup, should have no bearing on having some form of relationship with your grandchildren. I do wish you well and hope that you manage to negotiate a middle ground, the first step being to show respect by speaking to her first, not directly to the children.