Family Estrangement

All children deserve parents, not all parents deserve children.

If walking away makes you happy you’ve made the right decision. I would say get on with your life and look out for your mental health but don’t close the door altogether. In years to come you may have all moved on and may be ready to hear each other.
Good luck with what you choose and look after yourself.

Connor

You dont get to pick your family, sadly

Mental health is worth it, you deserve to make the best decisions that fit your life

You sound very hurt Connor, I would put in writing how your family make you feel, that you need time out, then perhaps talk and try to come to some kind of of understanding but not until you feel ready. They need to realise how arguments make you feel. I think they sound thoughtless but that can alter I don't for a minute what they do is because they don't want you in their lives, it needs sorting.

I agree keepingquiet that the decision has been made and I also wondered why the OP posted about it.

StarFish57

How dare you speak so ill of your parents when they gave you life!

You wouldn't even be posting this thread if it weren't for them.

Learn to be more humble and grateful, it will do you a lot of good.

Reconsider speaking to them again. Noone is perfect, not even you!

Good grief, incredibly harsh.

Respect and love is earned, poor, neglectful, abusive parenting (not suggesting this applies here, simply making a genetic observation), deserves nothing in return and if by estranging these types of parents is best for the adult child, so be it.

BlueBelle

Good grief Starfish who are you to judge you know nothing !
What a horrible post would you say that to a child/person abused by their parents
Goodness me judgemental and harsh

Sadly, I agree.

Some parents just should never have had children ☹️☹️😰😰

User18437

keepingquiet

It sounds as if you are happy about your decision so I'm slightly baffled why you feel the need to post about it?

Happy about their decision doesn't mean they're happy about the situation.

You only get 1 family and theirs turned out to be complete shite.

Get your head out of your #@%

Nice.

I didn't say they were happy about their situation. I also stated that it sounds like they have already made their decision. It is clearly a very unhappy one- but nowhere did OP ask for advice or even support.
That's all.

Good grief Starfish who are you to judge you know nothing !
What a horrible post would you say that to a child/person abused by their parents
Goodness me judgemental and harsh

It’s very sad BUT if this is genuinely this man’s choice and he’s happier without family contact, then I respect that.

Families can be so complex and damaging, I am fortunate enough to not experience that situation, it doesn’t mean it’ll never happen to us.

Estrangement is often tragic and misunderstood and I have empathy for those involved

StarFish57

How dare you speak so ill of your parents when they gave you life!

You wouldn't even be posting this thread if it weren't for them.

Learn to be more humble and grateful, it will do you a lot of good.

Reconsider speaking to them again. Noone is perfect, not even you!

To be fair, some parents are pretty awful.

I’m all for trying to keep the family show on the road, but sometimes you just have to walk away from people who cause you harm or hurt.

Just being a parent doesn’t give you a free pass to act badly, any more than just being an adult child does. 😊

StarFish57...wait until we hear the full story.
We cannot be expected to be grateful to our parents just because they brought us into the world.
They need to have parented effectively!

Connor1993...do you think you're the family scapegoat?
Have yoyr parents suggested Family therapy?

keepingquiet

It sounds as if you are happy about your decision so I'm slightly baffled why you feel the need to post about it?

Happy about their decision doesn't mean they're happy about the situation.

You only get 1 family and theirs turned out to be complete shite.

Get your head out of your #@%

How dare you speak so ill of your parents when they gave you life!

You wouldn't even be posting this thread if it weren't for them.

Learn to be more humble and grateful, it will do you a lot of good.

Reconsider speaking to them again. Noone is perfect, not even you!

It sounds as if you are happy about your decision so I'm slightly baffled why you feel the need to post about it?

I'm sorry for all that you've been through Connor but pleased that having made the decision to estrange, you have found the peace that had previously not been available to you.

That all sounds very sad.