Yet, I bet my daughter does absolutely nothing when it comes to others. When it comes to me, I can't blink at my grankids twice without it being me being interfering.
I'm also not allowed an opinion. Nor should my feelings ever be considered, but I must consider hers at all times. To which I never had that problem with; a lot of good that's done me.
Not totally estranged, but distanced a bit these last few years and subject to constant criticism, not to mention her telling the kids I was a bad grandma and bad mom. This all of course, after her husband took off with a young girl. Before that, I was gold.
So, just today, we all found out that the girlfriend is influencing my grandson to read the Bible. He mentioned it and at first, my daughter thought it was a teacher's aid with the same name, but nope, it's the ex husband's mistress.
First off, the hypocrisy/blasphemy of this person who enticed a married man to leave his pregnant wife.
But let's set that aside, and some background first: I was told by both her and her ex that they would NOT be raising their child with any religion! So naturally, I abided by that, and worse still, his mother whom is very, very religious had to abide by that also, which troubled her very much.
So what, now it's ok because it's the girlfriend? i mean, his dad didn't speak up against it but ok, I get it, he's not going to jeopardize what he's got going, so I get it. He's one of those who says things like standing by what you believe in, yet I do not expect him to impose what he believes on the girlfriend. He's such a fake person. But good at it, we all fell for it once.
But it almost looked like my daughter is going to let it slide because she didn't say one word to my grandson against it.
I have even heard her tell him Jesus, the Bible, etc was all fake when he asked about it once. I wouldn't dare say otherwise or suffer more of her wrath. But now it's cool I guess with the girlfriend?
Nothing is more hypocritical than double standards.
Idk. I guess by the time he can actually read and understand it....which will be awhile since he is only 8......the adultery part should be interesting to him I suppose.
Or not, everyone is so in denial these days when people do evil things....seems just to have an opposing opinion or follow the unpopular politics these days seems to draw more ire than actual hypocrisy, sin and evil.
So maybe he'll be in denial too, like his mom who now has tried to save face by saying maybe she did something to cause the split, although when it first happened, she said she was blindsided because she thought her husband was ok with things.
That she was trying to give him more attention that he wanted; even went on a summer trip right before it all just to give him attention without my grandson.
She doesn't want to blame him for anything, even the effect it had on my grandson when he left. He turned from being the best kid in daycare to the worst, and when he entered school he was so bad he had to change schools and also got kicked out of afterschool care.
Now my daughter wants to blame ADHD, which they never actually took him to a doctor to diagnose but the school was willing to put him in a special ed class for it anyway.
It's just crazy to me that it seems the people who actually are toxic, do bad things, etc. end up getting the understanding, get a free get out of jail card, while us devoted parents usually do not.
Ok, just venting. I don't need advice. This isn't exactly a fixable thing, nobody here has an answer, it's just an hypocrisy of life that is what it is.
I guess I could ask, what you all think of the fact my daughter is atheist now (wasn't raised that way) decided no religion for her kids, but now the girlfriend of her husband is allowed to give her son a bible , despite my daughter had insisted no religion? Isn't the girlfriend over stepping her place?
She clearly never asked my daughter if it was ok. Today during a visit here, my daughter just found out. He was building Lego crosses and then told her he was getting a bible.
Isn't that a hoot?
Normally, I'd say something to defend her but when I used to defend or try to help her it always ended up being that I was "interfering".
I had to fight the instinct to try and help her.
This time, I'm letting her swim in it.
And as much as I am angry myself at the girlfriend not bothering to get permission from my daughter, I'm kinda enjoying it.
