Forums for estranged adult children

I did report and ask that my reply post was removed. Thank you GN. 👍

TBH I'd rather engage than let sweeping generalisations and false representations stand, especially when known posters are being targeted.

I also continue to be fascinated at the level of hostility some who are estranged carry and show toward those who have been estranged when they don't know them.

Pain and anger is of course expressed by EP's and EGP's but toward those who have estranged them and not toward estrangers in general.

When threads deteriorate as this one did it says more about those who seek to hurt and disrupt than it does about those who engage with maturity.

I do think it’s best if people don’t engage with her/them and I am an EC, too old to be called a child really

Unfortunately everytime a new thread appears on the estrangement thread it always turns nasty . Usual suspects appear and then the nasty ones appear who you have never seen on GN before. Who love to twist the knife . IA was one of those . I reported her twice and when I heard from GNHQ they had banned her I let Smiles know . But she will be back next time a new thread starts . And the whole saga will start all over again .

The only thread that has lasted is the support thread and that's thanks to Smiles ,Yogin and other long timers. Think it's 14 years it's been running but may be 15.

Those of us there have beat off trolls who have tried time and time again to destroy it. But they will never win. For me it was and still is a lifeline. Took me months of sending PM s to Smiles before I could post openly .

What I would say to people who genuinely need help don't start a new thread if you are a parent , sibling or grandparent who is estranged join the support thread . Those who estrange their parents etc are still welcome on the support thread but will not be tolerated if they attack people on there .

By 'eck, the previously banned poster is still smarting after all this time! Still looking for someone else to blame for all their failures and inadequacies.

Really is best not to engage with posters who are obviously banned posters. Just hope it doesn't put first posters off. I don't read them but am sorry for those that have insults aimed at them by peopIe putting 2 & 2 together and making 5.

Fair enough.

Smileless2012

There was nothing wrong with the title or the OP InRainbows and the only reason it has led to this is because of how some have chosen to respond.

That is your perspective and one that I do not share.

There was nothing wrong with the title or the OP InRainbows and the only reason it has led to this is because of how some have chosen to respond.

What is the point of any of this? I was confused the moment I saw the title and look what it has led too.

That's why I don't read them StTrinians and is why they shouldn't be on here.

Just realised that it's blatantly obvious who is being referred too; what on earth were you thinking? What an awful thing to do.

I read a few posts, but they were awful, just so toxic, that I found it quite disturbing. It is very sad that it is so common now. It demonstrates very little of positivity. Being a generally positive person I didn't feel I could handle the level of toxicity, and hatred directed towards their mothers. Very draining, so I swiftly left it.

Removed by GNHQ - quotes a deleted post by a banned poster.

I just want to add that comments have been made about the toxic nature of some of these EAC forums and language used but no one here has hurled personal insults at any of the EAC doing so.

TBH I'm rather shocked that you felt it appropriate to put those here.

If we wanted to know what's on those sites we would go on and read them stillawip; I don't so I don't and TBH I don't think things said there should be posted here on this estrangement forum.

We've had this in the past and it always resulted in causing unnecessary distress and hurt as well as derailing threads, in fact the majority of threads where this happened ended up being removed.

For your information apparently the poster IssendaiAcolyte as well as having numerous posts deleted has also been banned, so I think we've had enough don't you?

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Hello Bridey, nice to see you .

It's good those posts have been removed. Thank you GNHQ.

We are all here for you Whiff, this personal targetting by cruel posters is not on, debate , dicussion is fine, but when it becomes personal is awful, pleased to see the posts have been deleted.

Sorry to read everything you have been through Whiff and wouldn't judge you for the language either.

It really is ok to express yourself however you need in a safe space.

I dislike all this judgement from strangers to strangers. Especially those who have clearly been through a hard time in life. Would a person be so apt to swear or name call if they hadn't had to find ways to be stronger? If life hadn't taught them to be hard and defensive?

People shouldn't judge so easily by these things. We all have different upbringings and experiences. The language isn't what matters, it is what is being expressed.

GNs we are not obliged to respond to every post and every Poster.

You accuse and criticise Whiff of expressing vitriol and yet support EAC if they do the same with their parents IA. It was 'OK' for her d.i.l. to write what she did because Whiff wouldn't read it. The same should apply to her saying her son is a cruel coward.

You posted earlier on this thread that your bias is for EAC but that didn't need to be stated because it's obvious from what you say. Would you ever suggested that an EAC is fabricating their story? I suspect that an honest answer to that would be 'no' as it should be, but that should also apply to Whiff.

Whiff is well known here on GN and not just on the estrangement forum. You are not but are responded too respectfully and not judged because you are an estranger.

These threads are an opportunity for experiences, opinions and feelings to be shared and it's a shame when they risk being disrupted by unnecessary and unpleasant comments.

You have chosen not to give details of your own estrangement which is of course your decision but even if you have no empathy or understanding for the EP's posting here, at the very least you should have respect their courage for sharing their pain, rather than dismissing it as fabrication.

You try to come across as someone with not just experience of estrangement but also knowledge, but the later appears to be sadly lacking.

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IA did a search on you your first post was 6th before that no where on GN . I suspect you are a banned poster back.
My daughter in law and daughter never got on but while my daughter never slagged her off in my presence. My daughter in law always slagged my daughter off in my presence after she married my son . But I bite my tongue as I lived 100 miles away until getting towards 7 years ago.

I have only called my son a cruel coward on GN because he has never had the guts to face me since his email in May 2020. He should have told me to my face 4 days before when can to see me on my birthday. That's how we do things in our family you have a problem with some one you face them. My son not only estranged me and his sister but she didn't care as I didn't know they hadn't spoken for 5 years only when I was with them all. But he has estranged all our side of the family.

And I really don't care if you think my story doesn't add up . Those long timers on GN know me and my experiences on various topics as I only write about things I have experienced first hand.

So according to you I am a difficult person to be around . Love to know how. Some on GN have meet me in person and regularly see 2 every month . Have to ask them if I am a difficult person. I already know the answer .

You are a waste of space so my last post to you as will never see anything other than your view. And your attitude estranged parents get what they deserve.

There have been many posters like you . Funny enough it's always the Estrangement threads they attack . And there will be many more after you disappear.