Do I run for cover?

I think Allsorts is right InRainbows. As an EP, I don't know how I would cope knowing that my sister if I had one, was seeing my D on a regular basis.

I'm sure I'm not alone in thinking that I would be OK with this and would want to be, only to find that the realisation is far harder than I could have imagined.

I don't think you should block her, that would be cruel and only add to the pain and distress she's experiencing due to the separation from her D.

Maybe it would be easier to have a sensible discussion with your niece who it appears from your post, is dealing with the estrangement better than your sister and explain, if this is how you feel, that for the time being you feel that you cannot continue your relationship because of the effect it's having on her mum.

I do not think you can have both I think that at least for the time being Allsorts is right. You say you don't want your sister to be alone with her husband and if you block her not only will she be, but the torment of knowing you're seeing her D will only increase.

She resents your relationship with her daughter, it should be her but isn't. I can understand her feelings however wrong they are. I do not think you can have both.

I'd let your sister know her daughter is safe and you can't discuss things as it's her daughter's wishes.

Not sure I would do that.

I would want to continue relationship with sister if I could.

March

I'd let your sister know her daughter is safe and you can't discuss things as it's her daughter's wishes.

I think her behaviour explains why she's turned to you.

Yes!

Well said March.

I'd let your sister know her daughter is safe and you can't discuss things as it's her daughter's wishes.

I think her behaviour explains why she's turned to you.

Is there a reason why your sister has started to act the way she is? Is she going through the menopause, od if much older is she developing any serious health problems? Can you talk to her husband about her health and behaviour?

I agree with the advice Cossy has given, but tink some background research is needed before you decide what to do.

I think you need to think long and hard about this.

I think you’ve absolutely done the right thing re not discussing your niece with your sister.

Why not tell her that temporarily you’re taking a break. That you have lots on your plate and that although you’re sure she’s not deliberately harassing you, you are feeling too much pressure at the moment.

Having explained that, I wouldn’t block her, but I would avoid picking up phone calls from her and refrain from answering texts, just for a while.

Don’t feel guilty, you didn’t cause the rift between your sister and her daughter.