The worst experience of ageism, for me, was the eventual reason why I retired when I did.
I was a registered nurse, and for the last few years of my working life I working in an aged care facility. I really enjoyed the more relaxed format, and thought that I could stay there until I was 65.
When I had been there for a couple of years, a new boss came on the scene - a 40-something with ideas of making her way up the corporate ladder. For her own reasons, she decided that the three over-60's on the staff were too old to be safe or reliable.
All three of us then found that life was not worth living - we were blamed for everything bad that happened. More than once I was dragged onto the carpet for things that had nothing to do with me at all . Even mild comments that I had made ( once I'd said that I didn't like the singer at a concert) somehow got back to the boss, and I was accused of undermining the morale of the place ! The fact that I'd been the Union representative on site made it worse - you'd have thought I was an enemy of the State, working to bring the company down with my activities.
In the end I couldn't stand it any more. I didn't call her out on it, I felt old and vulnerable by that point. I was due for some leave so I took it, and while I was away I sent my resignation to take effect immediately. I've never regretted leaving, but it left a bad taste at the end of what had previously been a successful career.
I don't know what can be done about this attitude. Often it is just something which happens insidiously, you don't see it coming and suddenly "whammo !" you're being accused of incompetence simply because of your age. Good luck to those still in the workforce. I hope it doesn't happen to you.
Irritating personality traits haven't softened - do friendships change?
Needed but feeling left out - do others feel the same?
Where were you on this day? - moon landing