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Older couples holding hands

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Fennel Tue 18-Dec-18 21:51:21

I was reading a report about a couple in their 80s being rescued after a car accident. They were holding hands.
We live in a busy NE town and often see older couples walking round holding hands. Or arms. We don't see the younger ones doing the same.
I think it's lovely, even though perhaps it's to give support on the uneven pavements here. We've started to do the same, grateful to have eachother.

Kim19 Wed 19-Dec-18 10:05:56

Cannot imagine being out with my husband without physical contact. Linking his arm was particularly warming in the winter but I think we usually did hand holding. I remember one time on holiday when it was extremely hot and hands were damp. I said 'Can we just do pinkies?' That's how it was ever after. All good fun.

PamelaJ1 Wed 19-Dec-18 10:04:28

I was looking for a card yesterday.
Came across one that had a couple holding hands in a shopping area. The man was saying to another one.
If I don’t hold her hand she buys something!

Nanny41 Wed 19-Dec-18 10:01:00

I am not a hand holding type, but occasionally it happens,I like to link arms instead,this happens occasionally too.

David1968 Wed 19-Dec-18 09:56:27

More hand-holders in their sixties, here!

Rosina Wed 19-Dec-18 09:49:06

We hold hands; we have often commented it is to stop us strangling each other. (Not really - we rub along pretty well!)

Guineagirl Wed 19-Dec-18 09:45:11

As Day6 says loved and cherished, mmm something I sadly do not feel at all.

seadragon Wed 19-Dec-18 09:43:46

Still at it 50 years on!

Guineagirl Wed 19-Dec-18 09:42:47

Must be lovely I envy it, haven’t held hands for thirty years

Theoddbird Wed 19-Dec-18 09:40:53

It would be lovely to have someone to hold my hand....

Kernowflock Wed 19-Dec-18 09:39:35

We have always held hands when out walking. And more recently we fall asleep my hand held by his. I have had several visits to hospital and what started as a simple 'glad you're here' is now a comfort/closeness that means so much.

Wilma65 Wed 19-Dec-18 09:39:28

Hand holders here too. We go to sleep holding hands and I often wake in the night and we are still holding hands ?

sodapop Wed 19-Dec-18 08:56:25

Same here Minimoon my husband treats each outing like a route march, he can't walk slowly it seems so I have to anchor him.smile

Greyduster Wed 19-Dec-18 08:45:11

Hand holders here too, for fifty two years. We quite often walk with our arms around each other, but it is less easy than when we both carried a little less bulk. We are a very touchy feely couple!

Maybelle Wed 19-Dec-18 08:35:51

Miss holding hands, but impossible to do this whilst pushing his wheelchair.
Need to employ a wheelchair pusher so we can walk side by side again

annep Wed 19-Dec-18 08:25:48

My husband does that too Day6 - walking on the outside, and holds the door open for others.

Anniebach Wed 19-Dec-18 08:15:16

I have no one to hold my hand, just as well, my hands are twisted from arthritis ?

Day6 Wed 19-Dec-18 08:05:46

OH and I hold hands when we are out. I remember after we'd been seeing each other for a couple of months (we were both in our early 50s when we met) he touched my hand as we left the restaurant and held it in his. Nothing was said, we carried on walking to the car. I was becoming fond of him and it was like an electric connection. I can remember that moment and that feeling like it was yesterday.

My ex-husband had never been demonstrative in any way.

We still hold hands when out walking and he also does 'old fashioned' courteous things like ensuring he always walks on the outside of the pavement when we are together. I think it's lovely. (I am sure if he had a cloak he'd lay it over a puddle for me grin - well, perhaps not.)

Blinko Wed 19-Dec-18 08:05:43

We hold hands when we're out and about. He says it's an economic thing. I can't wander into quite as many shops.....grin

gmelon Wed 19-Dec-18 07:56:09

My husband always held my hand, he started complaining that it was not done in return.
After that comment I made sure to keep in mind to take his hand.
He also liked me to hold his arm when walking but doing so always made me feel clingy.

Day6 Wed 19-Dec-18 07:55:31

Or being loved and cherished?

tanith Wed 19-Dec-18 07:55:06

My husband and I always held hands, I miss it ?

Newquay Wed 19-Dec-18 07:53:37

I read a while ago that, over 50, you shouldn’t hold hands as you’re either being supported or restrained! Lol!

grannyqueenie Wed 19-Dec-18 07:39:22

Another hand holder here and like you nina we used to walk like that too. I hadn’t noticed but you’re right......you don’t see folk doing that now.

ninathenana Wed 19-Dec-18 07:06:13

We've always been hand holders too.
Before we were married we often walked along with our arms around each others waists. You don't see that any more.

annep Tue 18-Dec-18 23:34:33

We always hold hands when watching telly and often when walking.