Bossed around

Not a chance!

My neighbour tries to boss me.
I have to politely put her back in her place sometimes.

It's done with the best intentions, I think, but under no circumstances will I be told what to do.

I'd like some examples of the bossy behaviour. I find it hard to imagine how a neighbour could be bossy. Dorita, maybe an assertiveness course would benefit you.

Like some of the other posters I find my daughter tries to boss me around quite a lot - she will sometimes over-talk me when I am speaking as well which irritates me no end. We do have arguments about it - she says I take too long to get to the point! Mainly I choose to do what I think is right, although I do always take into consideration what she has to say first and have, on occasion, changed what I was going to do as a result.

No I don’t really get bossed around by anyone have nice neighbours

People try to boss me but I wont let them which infuriates the heck out of them

Mainly by 'she who must be obeyed (DD)' upstairs. I find I am more inclined to say what I feel now, called an arrogant wee lassie 'rude and aggressive' last week when she was poking me and being nasty when I told her I did not watch cricket!!!! complete stranger. DD, DGS and I were in a local cafe the Cricket was on and we were not watching.
Sorry ranting, it still winds me up. BBQ here for 30 on Sunday, and just been told 4 are vegans and 2 seem to allergic to everything. Why don't they tell me when they reply, I always ask!!!!!!Sorry.

Crazy H. Yes i have a daughter like that, but my other one is incensed when she takes me to Hosp and docs talk to her and not me and ask if I have a carer. She thinks I'm in control the other one thinks I need controlling !!

Yes - my (male) neighbour of one year is a Know-It-All, arrogant, overbearing bastard who thinks he's the Big I Am, talks down to me (quite stridently), marches into my back garden when he wants to do any maintenance to my side of his garden fence (as if he owns my place as well as his), and - laughably - claims "I know lots of very important people in very high places - I personally know everyone on the town council!".

Wow - I think he's watch The Godfather films once too often......

Seriously though, his wife literally lives in his shadow, walks around with hunched shoulders (as if she's trying not to be noticed) and I've only ever heard her make noises of agreement whenever he's in the front garden pontificating at length. Unbelievably, she actual fed me the old story about "walking into a kitchen cupboard door" when I was coming back from the shops one day and caught sight of her in the garden with a whopper of a bruise underneath one eye.

Glad he only talks to me insultingly......he's the kind of guy whom, I suspect, uses his fists and feet to win an argument with a woman.

I moved house a few years ago, majority of the neighbours are lovely. They pass the time of day and we all lend a hand when necessary but not to to the extreme of dropping in for a cuppa etc. However, one other person, although is helpful she is extremely OTT. Tries to control people, her opinion is always the best etc etc. I watched with interest and soon discovered she totally dominates her OH, poor man cannot think for himself! She is a control freak who obviously thinks she can control everyone. I have not discussed this with the other neighbours but certain comments lead me to believe that many of them feel the same about this one person.

My DD tries to boss me around and organise me. I do need organising but sometimes she goes a bit far but I mostly agree she's right then ignore her instructions! Fortunately she lives far enough away that she can't easily check up on me!

My dad lived to 94 and used to spend most weekends with us, my sons used to say was grandad coming this weekend for his telling off!!! Boot on the other foot now, guess who's reeling off who. But no malice intended, just pleased they are interested. ?????

I can be very bossy but recently my dd’s have taken over me!! I’ve just turned 60 and am in hospital atm and they are soooo bossy, telling me how to rearrange my life and look after myself properly!! I’m a bit of a rebel but they are going to turn me into a stroppy teenager as I fight back if they carry on like this!

The only person to ever boss me around has been my husband of 47 years.....and 5 years ago I told him to stop it, or ...I’d-punch-his-light-Out ..... apparently all I had to do was stand up for myself, because it worked. He doesn’t think to boss me about now ....cos he knows I’d do it! Horrible when you first realise that your husband is a physical coward ...but very useful! Lol

Yes. Men seem to think I don't matter, and they can pass comment on what I say and do. Daughter likes to boss around occasionally but she takes after me and her aunty who are also bossy, so it's just a case of rolling eyes.

As for men - I get quite stroppy.

My DD tries! When visiting she loves to try and organise me. She says things like why don't you get carpet in the hall?, why don't you buy some new curtains?, why don't you move the dining table? etc. I just smile sweetly and ignore her

My daughter and my sister boss me around but they do it with everyone in the family, have done so practically since they were born, and I know it's their way of showing how they love us and want us to have better lives.

Still bloody annoying though.

My daughter has tried it in the past to the extent that I considered it to verge on bullying. As a consequence I refused her contact with me for over a year having exploded, but ensured that my wife maintained contact.

Since then I have accepted a “normalisation” but deliberately act slightly prickly to stop any risk of any reoccurance.

No - I don't let people boss me around. I give as good as I get (if they even try to)

I'd like to see someone try!

I can't see why you think that you are being bossed about!
Younger people don't seem to have any problem with stating most of their opinions, whether they are right, wrong or you agree with them!
People in general nowadays seem to have less respect for other people - I have had new neighbours move in next door and the noise they make in their back garden and in their house is unbelievable -but then the chap that lived there before for a number of years was so quiet that you hardly knew he was there! Apart from when he used to sweep his chimney at 7.30 on a Sunday morning - the houses are semi detached!

I’m not an assertive person (although opinionated), so I’ve been bossed around my entire life. I do find that my DGD1 is extremely bossy towards me, together with any one who perceives me as old, female, married, etc... ☹️

Once we're passed a certain age I think some other people see us as being in need of guidance and assume that their pearls of wisdom will set us back on the right path. How wrong they are!

I'd like to see them try!

I find my daughter trying to boss me around, she sometimes speaks or messages me in a condescending manner and then tries to blame me when I don't fall for it. Unfortunately we are not talking at the moment.