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Everyday Ageism

Bossed around

(70 Posts)
notentirelyallhere Fri 23-Aug-19 08:54:15

I think people in general are more willing to voice their opinions than was once the case, maybe encouraged by social media.

I don't feel bossed around but I do find, as I get to my mid 60s,responses that often feel patronising and having things explained to me that I know only too well. I've assumed it's ageism kicking in.

I'd LOVE to hear how to exude an air of authority! I have noticed this in some people but usually they're spouting so-called facts, which I often know are wrong, coupled with an inability to listen! grin

sodapop Fri 23-Aug-19 07:59:48

Same here, I'm the bossy one. I often have to bite my tongue when others seem like they could not organise a p* up in a brewery. grin

Willow500 Fri 23-Aug-19 07:22:21

No I don't get bossed around by anyone and in fact found it was the older people who were often ruder than the youngsters when I was younger! My neighbours are younger than us (now) and are great.

TerriBull Fri 23-Aug-19 07:16:17

No I can't imagine being bossed around by anyone other than the grandkidsgrin

kittylester Fri 23-Aug-19 07:12:59

Not a scenario I recognise.

M0nica Fri 23-Aug-19 05:58:21

BradfordLass, absolutely. I have been told I have an air of authority.

Loislovesstewie Fri 23-Aug-19 05:54:16

No. I'm the bossy one!

BradfordLass72 Fri 23-Aug-19 05:39:20

People are far too scared of me to boss me about.

<evil laff>

Summerlove Fri 23-Aug-19 02:11:27

I would never of been outspoken and rude with older people when i was a younger age.

Maybe this is the problem? You are expecting deference and instead are treated like a peer?

stella1949 Fri 23-Aug-19 01:51:09

No, not me. My daughter bosses me, but then she was doing it when she was a little one . Nobody else does it. Maybe you just have bossy neighbours.

paddyann Fri 23-Aug-19 00:40:26

No not happening to me ,maybe its the vibes your giving off .

SueDonim Thu 22-Aug-19 23:41:01

I can't say that I've noticed anyone bossing me about, apart from my dds. But then they've been doing that since the days they were born, so no change there! grin

annodomini Thu 22-Aug-19 22:49:11

I have very helpful younger neighbours who have done me many good turns but I could never accuse them of bossing me! My DSs usually treat me as an equal which they have earned the right to do.

Tangerine Thu 22-Aug-19 22:40:22

I can't honestly say I've noticed this and I'm quite a bit older than you.

I admit that sometimes my children assume I know less about technology than I actually do but I don't think they mean to be unkind.

tanith Thu 22-Aug-19 22:25:23

No my neighbours are all nice people who often ask me what colours bins need to go out this week as no one can remember ??

Dorita Thu 22-Aug-19 22:21:12

Im the happy one, everyone else isn't then !

crazyH Thu 22-Aug-19 22:20:42

No, not neighbours or friends, but my daughter. She thinks she knows it all.....she doesn't really, but I let her think she does ?

Dorita Thu 22-Aug-19 22:18:44

Lol aah

Bathsheba Thu 22-Aug-19 22:15:18

Not noticed this at all. The only person who bosses me around is my 5 year old granddaughter ?

Dorita Thu 22-Aug-19 22:11:51

I've noticed that now Im nearer 60 I get bossed around alot, by just neighbours voicing their opinions in a not very sociable way. Do others find this,. I would never of been outspoken and rude with older people when i was a younger age. Is society changing - for the worse?