Before you die

Je ne regrette rien

I'm not sure the dead can feel regret, so I guess you mean would I regret anything about my life in my final moments? There are one or two things I wish had happened and one or two I wish hadn't. But that's in the past and I don't have a time machine to go back and change things. In any case, even if those things were put right, there'd have been other things to replace them. Nobody lives an utterly perfect life.

Welbeck writing letters to your children is a wonderful idea. Something I had never thought of.

I would love to sail out to sea again on my boat, and listen to the waves and the birds and watch the gannets diving into the sea. Then of course to go up to my beloved swaledale, and be thankful to see it again. Dont think I shall manage to get to Peru or Ulan Bator now but it was lovely to think of them.

That reminds me - I need to complete my Life Book

whywhywhy - I hope you will see your daughter soon.

I would be worrying about DH, who is not in the best of health and is a glass half empty person, also DD, who would end up providing that support.

I have been estranged from my daughter in years. Hopefully that will be over soon. I’d hate to die and never to see her again. 💔

I try to bear in mind anyone can go at any time.

Absolutely no regrets, had a colourful life, blessed with fabulous family, so far, good health, just like it to go on for as long as possible!

Macadamia
Maybe you could write letters individually to each of your children with some nice or notable memories and telling them how much you love them.
You could leave these letters among your papers to be discovered as and when they go through them.
Then you can relax.
And maybe make some charitable donations re your other impulses.
Perhaps sponsor a goat for a poor family in Sudan and gift that donation in the name of a young relative.
So they would get the updates and encourage them to be interested in such things too.
This would link your 2 priorities of love for your family and concern for others less fortunate.
All the best.

I'm really sorry for your loss. It's a powerful question to reflect on. Personally, I think I'd regret not spending more time with loved ones, and not pursuing passions that could have helped others. It's important to cherish every moment.

Typos! * I think I would like to visit Bhutan or Iceland sometime in my life, maybe India.

O think.i would lol to visit Bhutan or Iceland sometime in my life,.maybe India.

Sorry, wrong thread 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

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I would not like to leave this world without doing something special for a.person not so advantaged

A lot.of my friends have spent time doing philanthropist activities before they passed on. Very honorable I think.

I am so sad thinking about this.i don't know what I would want to do before I diem though the years are coming up upon me. I think I would just like to let my children know how much I love them. I don't know.

I wouldn't even entertain regrets.
Dying is quite enough to contend with, and what's done, is done, or not, as the case may be.

This reminds me of when I took my mum to memory clinic. She had aready said she didn't want to know her diagnosis. The Dr asked questions that were obviously assessing her state of mind.
'Do you ever go low?'He said, 'As if, you know, you'd rather not be here.'
She got what he meant after a little thought.
'Oh no' she said sharply,'I have far too much to do,' she was 90 years old.

I miss her so much.

For me I also have far too much to do- the list will never end but I'm happy to go when the angels are sent to fetch me.

Me too Cossy

Cossy

I would have no regrets other than by dying I’d never get to spend time with my fabulous family and amazing friends.

Beautifully said.

I would have no regrets other than by dying I’d never get to spend time with my fabulous family and amazing friends.