Just got congratulated for being able to use my debit card!

You don't tell us your own age Lathyrus but this is the Ageism thread in case you haven't noticed.

My DMIL died a couple of years ago aged 98. She made us laugh with her insistence on never giving in to old age she wore makeup and dressed prettily till the end.
She did have to give up on her unsuitable shoes, much to her annoyance.
She had a mobile phone and used her laptop to write emails to her cousins in America.

Yes maybe the change to the Highway Code rules is my answer.

The osteopath I used to visit 10 years ago for a painful neck and shoulders kept saying get a shopping trolley seeing that I walked to the local supermarket and carried 4 pinters of milk, bags of potatoes etc. But I said I wasnt old enough at 65. Well how ridiculous of me.
Once I bought a trolley the painful bits of me improved and the osteopath bills finished. I expect she wished she hadnt told me to buy one!

CabbageWars13

Maybe you should be grateful she didn't pat you on the head and gush "good girl!"

(She didn't pat you on the head, did she?)

Not to mention, ‘Aw, bless!’

I wonder, has anyone ever been fined/prosecuted for thumping a person guilty of such patronising remarks?

Lathyrus3

What a miserable thread.

All these grumpy old people with their rude reactions to someone who is trying to be pleasant and kind.

I used to be quite puzzled by comments on how much I laugh and smile. Now I see why🤣🤣

I am afraid that being treated like a half wit just because I am old and female may appeal to your sense of humour but it certainly doesn't appeal to mine.

Although I probably didn't grin from ear to ear, I was not rude to anybody at the time of my particular incident and I thanked the assistants for their help.

Grammaretto

You don't tell us your own age Lathyrus but this is the Ageism thread in case you haven't noticed.

My DMIL died a couple of years ago aged 98. She made us laugh with her insistence on never giving in to old age she wore makeup and dressed prettily till the end.
She did have to give up on her unsuitable shoes, much to her annoyance.
She had a mobile phone and used her laptop to write emails to her cousins in America.

Well, no I hadn’t noticed it was the ageism thread, it’s true.

I’ll exit it in that case.

I do think 80 is old and I’d be more inclined to laugh or say thank you to almost everything posted here.

Perhaps I take life lightly.

Lathyrus3

What a miserable thread.

All these grumpy old people with their rude reactions to someone who is trying to be pleasant and kind.

I used to be quite puzzled by comments on how much I laugh and smile. Now I see why🤣🤣

Me too Lathyrus.
2 wrongs (if there was even one) don’t make a right. 🤷‍♀️

Chill people.

I'm usually bad about thinking about the best words to say at the time, but I think I would have been puzzled, this seems so bizarre, and said so

"I'm not sure what you mean - debit cards have been around for 30 years - I was using one at your age?"

Debit cards were brought in in 1987 and initially were used mostly for phone or till shopping as opposed to cash at ATM's which came later.

I can recall my then elderly friend (87 years) delighted to phone shop and just have to read numbers out.

Now what I was impressed by (as I don't do it yet) was a Lady clearly a great deal more elderly than me whipping out her mobile phone to pay.....

fancyflowers

I am yet a spring chicken at 72, but I have some mobility issues and I find that when I walk with my stick, drivers often stop and wave me across the road.

I was standing at the side of the road (with my stick) waiting for the last car in a goup to pass. Behind it there was nothing, and I was in no hurry, just waiting patiently for the road to clear, and gazing at the large gap that was approaching, when I would cross at leisure. However the final car in the group stopped and waved me over - so I was hurried into crossing before I wanted to and looking grateful to the driver into the bargain.

Helping old ladies across the road when they don't want to be helped isn't always appreciated.

But...there may come a day when you do need that help - maybe on balance it's better there are thoughtful/kind drivers?

Hardly anyone of any age uses cash anymore. Some of our banks don’t even carry it now! Time moves on. Maybe it’s just Australia ?

I live in a town where cars stop to let me across the road, where mums with a full shopping trolley usher me to go first with my few bits, where teenagers take my heavy shopping bag as I climb the hill and men carry my suitcase up the railway steps.

Where people just smile as I fumble in my purse and get up off the park bench they are sitting on as I pause for breath and, although I haven’t yet fallen down n the street, I know that strangers would rush to my help if I did and someone would stay with me till medical help arrived.

I think it is a really nice place to live🤔

When I let my hair grow grey, I was being treated as old and infirm so went back to dyeing my hair. No longer offered a seat in the bus etc. just shows how people go on looks.

FriedGreenTomatoes2

Lathyrus3

What a miserable thread.

All these grumpy old people with their rude reactions to someone who is trying to be pleasant and kind.

I used to be quite puzzled by comments on how much I laugh and smile. Now I see why🤣🤣

Me too Lathyrus.
2 wrongs (if there was even one) don’t make a right. 🤷‍♀️

Chill people.

I'm with you, too. I'm in my late 70's; still with most of my wits about me, and completely comfortable with most aspects of the age of electronics and e-commerce. Yet I feel nothing but pleasure and gratitude whenever anyone offers me any help, or congratulates me on managing (for example) to make a purchase at the till using my iphone. Perhaps one of the REAL signs of getting old is an increasing tendency to take offence where none is intended.

Keep laughing and smiling Lathyrus.
Have a happy Christmas 😀🎄

I recently visited somewhere for a Christmas lunch where the access was outside, up several flights of steep stone steps and I was a bit puffed at the top. There was a ‘meeter & greeter’ in the lobby who asked me where I needed to go so I said the top floor. He then said ‘The lift then - you look as though your days of counting steps are over.’ RUDE!

Lathyrus3

I live in a town where cars stop to let me across the road, where mums with a full shopping trolley usher me to go first with my few bits, where teenagers take my heavy shopping bag as I climb the hill and men carry my suitcase up the railway steps.

Where people just smile as I fumble in my purse and get up off the park bench they are sitting on as I pause for breath and, although I haven’t yet fallen down n the street, I know that strangers would rush to my help if I did and someone would stay with me till medical help arrived.

I think it is a really nice place to live🤔

Sounds just like my town, Lathyrus. There are a lot of old(er) folk in the supermarkets because there are good bus services and someone will always help if it’s needed.
Our local Morrisons seems to be everyone’s happy place. It’s impossible not to feel cheerful while you shop.
The other day I was waiting in the checkout queue when I felt something prodding my legs. I turned around and saw it was a blind man poking me with his white stick. I asked if he’d like to come in front of me as I had a full trolley to unload but he said, ‘No thanks. I’m not buying anything, I’m just trying to find the way out!!’ 😂

Maybe we’re all just a bit bonkers!

I just ignore these comments. I look forward to the day when these people get older, if they get that privilege.

nanna8

Hardly anyone of any age uses cash anymore. Some of our banks don’t even carry it now! Time moves on. Maybe it’s just Australia ?

There was a campaign in NQ to use cash - not sure how it's going now.

Use it or lose it!

Lathyrus3

I live in a town where cars stop to let me across the road, where mums with a full shopping trolley usher me to go first with my few bits, where teenagers take my heavy shopping bag as I climb the hill and men carry my suitcase up the railway steps.

Where people just smile as I fumble in my purse and get up off the park bench they are sitting on as I pause for breath and, although I haven’t yet fallen down n the street, I know that strangers would rush to my help if I did and someone would stay with me till medical help arrived.

I think it is a really nice place to live🤔

I thought like that around here at one time but it's getting worse.

DH got yelled in the supermarket car park the other day. Now, the queues in and out weren't moving anywhere, so I said I'd get out and start shopping while he was parking. No problem.

However, a man who was in the non-moving queue to exit started yelling at him about stopping to let me out and said that we were 'farting about'.
Merry Christmas 🎅

If you were really up with it, you'd have been using the self-scan checkout and wouldn't have needed a person to speak to you anyway!

(And by the way, debit cards are those plastic things we used before our phones to pay with).

I said I'd get out and start shopping while he was parking.

Patience is a virtue!!

(And by the way, debit cards are those plastic things we used before our phones to pay with).

😂😂😂

I still use a card, guess I'm just old-fashioned in refusing to use my phone to pay. It's not that I can't, I won't.

MartavTaurus

^I said I'd get out and start shopping while he was parking.^

Patience is a virtue!!

What is it with supermarket queues that make people so grumpy! It's not as if Grumpy could have inched forward anyway.
DH said nothing, apparently, but silently wishing him early transmission failure.

My eldest granddaughter, Mid 20’s, when I mentioned that GD and I were thinking of getting a shopping trolley looked quite surprised. Apparently she has one, it has a daisy pattern on it, and says she would be lost without it. Not just something for the older generation.

Lathyrus3

What a miserable thread.

All these grumpy old people with their rude reactions to someone who is trying to be pleasant and kind.

I used to be quite puzzled by comments on how much I laugh and smile. Now I see why🤣🤣

Not to mention insisting you aren't old at 80. When do people think old starts? Nothing wrong with acknowledging we are old.