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Has anyone else heard this?

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fancyflowers Wed 25-Feb-26 01:43:58

My mother, when she was alive, used to call old people 'old biddies.'

When we talked about her going into a care home, she said that she was never going to go into one as they were all full of 'old biddies.'

Is this a Northern expression or was it a common phrase in the past?

Nannan2 Thu 26-Feb-26 16:02:25

Yes used to that term,'old biddies' its northern use often still heard(both yorkshire& lancashire)& my late scottish mother- in-law also used it.So it appears to be known everywhere,generally,but not amongst the younger 'uns 😆

Alison333 Thu 26-Feb-26 16:01:32

'Old biddy' was also used in the south west of England where I grew up. I've always thought it a patronising term used for an older woman. Not polite!

Labradora Thu 26-Feb-26 16:00:39

Yup. Used in Liverpool where I grew up.
Used of women not men.
Info in Graphite's post very interesting.
I always wondered why Scottish women used the endearment " Hen".
I'm sure that I used the term" old biddies" myself when I was younger
I might have been kinder had I realised that one day I would become one.🤣🤣🤣🤣

Lizzie44 Thu 26-Feb-26 15:56:51

As an old biddy myself,I don't mind the expression - there are a lot more derogatory expressions out there for the elderly....

Fattyboomboom Thu 26-Feb-26 15:55:49

We say that in Scotland too.

Nanny123 Thu 26-Feb-26 15:55:27

We use this saying down south

Peaseblossom Thu 26-Feb-26 15:46:23

Cronesrule I haven't heard of biddying about and I don't like the sound of it.

Peaseblossom Thu 26-Feb-26 15:42:38

I am 75 very soon, and I have heard that expression all my life, and I come from East London. I remember my mother-in-law saying it, but not my mother. I've said it myself before too, the problem is I am now one myself! Ha ha! Although of course old is always at least 10 years older than you yourself are, as we keep moving the goalposts to suit our age!

NannyMags Thu 26-Feb-26 15:17:03

Its a London expression. One of my adult children used to live over the road from a care home and she told me her little one waves at the biddies. Little one called them the nannas.

bigmama1960 Thu 26-Feb-26 14:36:43

We used to say this in Staffordshire where I grew up.

Cronesrule Thu 26-Feb-26 14:33:46

N.B. My username! I am reclaiming “crone” as a term of mature female power! I don’t feel I have reached “biddy” stage yet. But will be proud to achieve Biddydom! I think it’s a common term. Never thought it was derogatory but can be patronising, like “old boy” and “old girl” sometimes considered to be. The idea of “biddying about” appeals. I think I do that already!

Lollipop1 Thu 26-Feb-26 14:33:15

Esmay

I think that it's rude .

It's not rude. I'm an old biddy. You can call me that, you can call me love or dear and I recently signed an email to a dear friend from childhood as from an 'old bint' and I've no idea where that one comes from, have you?

Cossy Thu 26-Feb-26 14:19:35

Boadicea

My friend (we are both in our very early 70s) will tell me she's just been "biddying about" at home: i.e.doing "old people" things like knitting, minding grandchildren, potting up plants etc.
I know I'm an old biddy but sometimes I forget I'm probably older than some of the people I might refer to as old biddies!

I love this 🤣🤣

Cossy Thu 26-Feb-26 14:19:04

We all, in Essex, use the expression “old biddies” My DM’s DM came from Lancashire

Boadicea Thu 26-Feb-26 14:14:45

A term I've heard (and used) throughout my life and I've lived all over England (as well as Aden, France, Singapore and Australia!)

Onetoein Thu 26-Feb-26 14:13:49

Old saying, also Old crusties!

Boadicea Thu 26-Feb-26 14:12:56

My friend (we are both in our very early 70s) will tell me she's just been "biddying about" at home: i.e.doing "old people" things like knitting, minding grandchildren, potting up plants etc.
I know I'm an old biddy but sometimes I forget I'm probably older than some of the people I might refer to as old biddies!

Pomgirl Thu 26-Feb-26 14:07:36

Lol.I'm a southener..and have heard this description.My husband uses it a lot.He is a southerner too.

Cath9 Thu 26-Feb-26 13:59:38

It must be definitely used during our mother’s age as my mother also used to refer to old people,’old buddies’ and she was born in Eire.

sharon103 Thu 26-Feb-26 13:59:16

Oh yes, old biddies in Northants.

knspol Thu 26-Feb-26 13:58:01

welbeck

It's a derogatory term for an older woman.

It's a term I use and have never thought it was the least bit derogatory and certainly not meant that way by me. I think it's a gentle, mild sort of name for an older person and would not be offended if I was called that.



when I have used

AuntieE Thu 26-Feb-26 13:50:19

nexus63

i am from glasgow and old biddies is a polite term for old folk, i have heard worse.

As in "yon auld besom"

Purplepixie Thu 26-Feb-26 11:38:20

County Durham - we used to always say old biddies.

TerriBull Thu 26-Feb-26 11:32:13

It's patronising, rude and misogynistic used by the sort of person who thinks they're somehow better than the individual they're casting the slurs at. In the same vein as, old bag, old hag, old crone and a myriad of other insults levied at older women.

ayse Thu 26-Feb-26 11:16:55

Definitely ‘old biddy ’ heard as a child in Sussex. The old lady just down the road always called me ‘duck’. The little devil in me always wanted to say ‘quack’!