Menus for grieving niece.

Thanks, FGT. Following your suggestions, I'd back having in plenty of eggs, tins (or other containers) of soup, bread, etc.

Then, the OP and husband eat what they would have been eating anyway (possibly with some bread on the side to spread it into enough for three) and if she doesn't want that, ask her if she'd like to make herself an omelet/baked potato, etc.

Yes let her buy what she wants. Is she vegetarian?
Tapas is the way to go. Several small plates.

Seconded Baggs (and X posts!).

I just think she sounds an entitled mare, grieving or not. You’ve already arranged the funeral. All she has to do is fly in. I’d buy in ‘supplies’ - bread, soups, hummus, cheeses, salad stuff, eggs, quiches. Open the fridge and decide on the day “fancy an omelette love with some salad?”. Next day “how about a pork chop with some veg dear?”. I think you’re over-thing this because you’re kind. She’s critical is she? Well, tough.

Good grief!

Take her to the nearest supermarket and shoo her in. Tell her you'll wait in the car (or a cafe).

A parent dying is not an excuse for being utterly self-centred and precious. What happened - serious health issues appart - to eating what's put in front of you in someone else's house?

Maybe given your age, she might like to cook for you one or more day (s)
You could ask for suggestions and ingredients and shop in advance.

Vegetable curry with lentils

Vegetable lasagne

Cheese & Onion pie

Pasta with tomato sauce

Pasta with vegetable sauce

Stuffed peppers (rice or lentils with chopped veg)

How about the famous SOAP dish?

I've done pasta with chicken livers disguised in a rich tomato sauce for my GC when they were very small - they love it. Does she have an aversion to liver/offal in general?

Quiche Lorraine with salad

Beef casserole (I'm assuming chunks of beef are OK?)

Pork stir fry with the leftover pork (and I've been known to use frozen mixed veg/french beans/carrots in those, and it turned out fine.)

That's 5, I'm also racking my brains for a 6th - Oh, vegetable curry!

Good luck, I hope it goes smoothly for you all at a sad time.

Gammon with jacket potatoes.
Pasta with some sort of sauce.
I second omelette or quiche with chips or jacket, salad.

Take her shopping in Marks food hall?

Could you ask her if she would like to cook one evening?

No fish kitty

Mushroom omelette
Cheese and onion quiche
Cheese, onion and potato pie
Jacket potatoes with baked beans.

Veg or salad with the first three, small potatoes.

Fish and chips
Take away pizza

I know you’re having pork for Sunday, but maybe pork steaks with potatoes and veg in the slow cooker for later in the week?

If no slow cooker, could do in the oven.

Oh yes.
Just read through the list again.
Dunno what the woman lives on!

Oh noo.
I thought I'd excelled myself there!

MissAdventure

Chicken casserole.
Chicken chasseur.
Chicken wraps with fries, dips, salad.

Jacket potato with veggie chilli.
Omelette and wedges.
Macaroni cheese.

chicken is out...

Chicken casserole.
Chicken chasseur.
Chicken wraps with fries, dips, salad.

Jacket potato with veggie chilli.
Omelette and wedges.
Macaroni cheese.

Calendargirl

OP says fish is out, I think.

Oh no.. missed that.. gruel maybe?

OP says fish is out, I think.

I'd go for fish dishes.. maybe prawn salad, pasta with salmon, fish and chips.. simple but good quality fish..

She's jolly lucky to have you.. I hope she's grateful

Hopefully she'll be very grateful for all you've done thus far, and can get in a takeaway to treat you one night, at least, and perhaps eat out another.

Just cook what you're comfortable doing, I'd say.

Pasta dishes? Not from freezer, but quite quick and simple.

Bacon, onion, cheese, potato hot pot, also not from freezer.

Jacket potatoes with fillings.

Liver and onions.

Hearty soups with crusty bread.

Oh dear, she sounds quite a fussy eater to me. Difficult to think of much.

A salad based meal with bits and pieces she can choose?
Steak pie?
She has a restricted diet!