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Personal memories... and leaving a legacy...

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SusietheGreat Mon 13-Feb-12 12:36:38

Have you ever asked yourself the question - who am I? What have I achieved, what mark will I be leaving in this world? I do - all the time! All these questions make me want to write it all down, leave something in this world so that people know I existed, that I created a family, had a career, had dreams and fears and hopes. 

I want to state who I am, shout about my achievements, from the moment my child was born to the day I decided to start my own business. I am a human being and I want there will be more than just a headstone to tell the world that I lived and loved in it. 

It almost sounds morbid that I am thinking about what happens when I am gone, but it is true. So I decided to sit down and write it all out. What a mistake that turned out to be! I spent absolute hours working on this document and being a perfectionist it just seemed so shoddy. (Not like me at all!)

I thought maybe I could get someone to help me, to write it all down, an author or a copywriter and that also was a road best left untravelled as it cost so much money. Ridiculous really, but these people have to earn a living I guess. 

I have found, a website that seems to fit the bill perfectly - I get to answer all these questions about my life, input all my photos (something I had not figured out how to do when I was writing my own version) I have not signed up yet - I wondered if there was anyone out there that had already done it? Has anyone done it themselves and gotten self-published?

Carol Mon 13-Feb-12 12:42:38

I think you may have inadvertently advertised on here, as the website you recommend has a very expensive service on offer.

Ariadne Mon 13-Feb-12 13:19:53

I think so too.

SusietheGreat Mon 13-Feb-12 14:52:47

Oh dear - ever so sorry is that not allowed? I am new on here -I should read the fine print more. I will change my post - took me ages to type also!

SusietheGreat Mon 13-Feb-12 14:53:45

Oh no... how do I change what I have written? I don't want to get in trouble...

Ariadne Mon 13-Feb-12 16:06:28

It's OK, Susie we're a bit wary because advertisers do sneak in! Don't need to change it, really!

Welcome to GN!

SusietheGreat Mon 13-Feb-12 21:05:03

Thank you! No problem with you being wary, I totally understand! Thanks for responding, now i know to make sure i don't repeat again!

FlicketyB Tue 14-Feb-12 09:46:59

Susiethe Great, dont worry about what your writing is like. It is part of you and will say more about you than any carefully formatted autobiography from a site selling a one format fits all solution. I am starting to think of recording my life, a peripatetic childhood and settled adulthood with a peripatetic husband etc but I am looking at themes rather than a continuous narrative, education, career, family, just jotting down ideas and thought and occasionally revising the text when I am in the mood. I am sure the sometimes disjointed tales of my life will say more of me than a formally consituted biography.

John Buchan (he of '39 Steps' fame) wrote, what he insisted was a memoir, rather than autobiography called 'Memory Hold The Door' in just that style. I could not possibly match his style but it was much more revelatory of the person than any formal biography.

Ariadne Tue 14-Feb-12 11:55:26

The poet Spemcer's muse said "Look in thy heart and write!" Pretty good advice, I think.

supernana Tue 14-Feb-12 12:00:14

Ariadne Perfect! smile

misunderstood Sat 05-May-12 18:45:56

When I retired I decided to write about my life from 15 onwards and putting things down brought back wonderful memories I also found that days I had been writing I felt so much better and even younger, perhaps playing the music of that era helps. I still have a long way to go as I always seem to find other things to look at when on the computer but my aim is to leave something for my family to read about me when I am no longer here

greenmossgiel Sat 05-May-12 19:04:26

That's a great idea, misunderstood. I would like to do something like that, even going so far as to describe how I felt about certain things that happened to me, would be a good thing to leave behind, I think. Life happens, doesn't it, and we can be criticised for how we may have handled parts of it. It could be a good thing to be able to write about the not so good things as well as the happy and positive things, perhaps. smile

Gagagran Sat 05-May-12 19:15:22

I can so understand your wish to leave a record Susie because I have kept a daily journal for almost 50 years. I write a page of A5 desk diary every night before bed and can't settle until it's done. I decided in my early teens that I wanted a record of my life for posterity! Well I have got descendants now but I really don't know what to do with the boxes of journals I have in my wardrobe. I seldom look at them and am not sure if I should pass them on to an archive somewhere or even if any archive would be interested in them. Not sure my offspring and DGC would be either. Maybe I should burn them? There are some juicy bits in and amongst the mundane!

Any ideas anyone?

greenmossgiel Sat 05-May-12 19:23:17

Gagagran, a while before my mother-in-law died, she instructed us not to read but to burn all her diaries on her death. We followed those instructions, but it was so tempting not to turn a page or two! She had been a 'bit of a girl' in her time, and perhaps she may have had the odd dalliance here and there...but we'll never know now! smile

pompa Sat 05-May-12 19:27:11

I would never have the patience to write my life down (neither would it be very interesting). But, a friend of ours did, had it published privately and a number of copies printed, which he signed and distributed to his friends. It was fascinating reading, so many interesting snippets about how life was over the years. He is very elderly and unfortunately ill atm, but whatever happens this will be a lasting memory of him that we will treasure.

If only our forefathers had done the same it would have been a wonderful addition to our family tree documents.