Swearing in front of Gc.

I don't understand the idea of passively accepting a child swearing because they have heard it.
I used to smoke, but wouldn't have let a five year old light up a fag.

I try not to, I'm always telling my children to stop swearing in front of the children . It came to a head the other day when DS told his daughter to do something and she swore at him.

I swear when I think it’s needed but in no way is it appropriate around children. I would pull anyone up doing it in front of my little granddaughters.

My eldest son, now forty, aged about 2 1/2, learned the special word, only EVER to be used when one thumps ones thumb with a hammer, from me, while helping in the garden.

Good as gold for months we never heard it but the b*rrer must have been practicing quietly to himself, because the next time my parents came over from Kent, a serious journey, so infrequent, he ran round the dining room with my dad’s toffee hammer in his hand, gently whacking his own hand screaming “F***, F***, F***!”

I am much more careful with the grandkids

Absolutely not. I remember a couple we knew who had a bad break up. On the day things blew up the wife told the partner ‘pack your bags and off !!’ Unfortunately their four year old daughter picked up on it, and for ages afterwards would come out with the phrase at random. It sounded so bad and each time it happened my friend was mortified. It kind of taught me a lesson, so no, I watch my language around all children.

I've always sworn - with some discretion, of course - and taught my children and students to only swear when appropriate. It's very expressive and straight to the point.

One daughter swears quite a lot, but her children don't (well, not when I'm around). The others don't swear much. Of course, small children will mimic, especially, words said with emphasis. Still, they all know the words soon after starting school anyway!

No, I never swear in front of the grandchildren. I am all too aware of the language that some young ones, and an awful lot of teenagers, come out with, and that little ones are absolute sponges (especially for things you don't want them to soak up!), so I want to have a clear conscience that if/when they do come out with it, it's not been picked up from me or at our house.

I wouldn't mind being picked up on it if I ever do lapse, and would apologise to the parent, and also to the child.

I never used the phrases that Billy Connolly made up to hide his swearing from children.

Ya bassa
and
Gettyfuh

Put together as gettifuh ya bassa

(I'm pretty sure that Billy never actually used those phrases, but it was a funny part of one of his gigs.)

All I'm going to say is there any need to swear or blaspem infront of any one?

We never have and didn't in front of our children either. My husband works in an all male environment and they swear amongst themselves but never in front of women. Our grown up children never use strong language in front of us although I know that they do with friends and partners.

NO NEVER

No we don't and neither does my daughter since she has her son 18 months ago. Sadly her partner (not our SIL luckily) swears like a trooper

My late Mum was from Northern Ireland and we accepted it was very much a part of her to use blasphemy swear words.

I absolutely detest the stronger and far more unpleasant words many use incessantly in normal everyday speak.

I use none of these word at all, and definitely think grandchildren should be spared from hearing these terms coming from their grandparents mouths.

Yes

allule

My grandchildren say anything heard at home is nothing compared to what they hear when they go to secondary school.
I think all we can do is to help them to sort out what is appropriate for different settings.

Exactly that. We do not swear in a family setting but will teach the children what to expect at school, on TV, in movies.

If schoolchildren are using bad language every day amongst themselves there is nothing we can do about it. I doubt complaining to the school will help, although maybe campaign for a swear box and 15 mins detention for every swear word they utter! Might be difficult to enforce though.

I find it very sad if schoolchildren are developing this habit because once a habit is formed it is very hard to break. If all else fails then all we can do is make them realise it's not language they should use in family or work settings but with friends only.

No!
As a Christian I would never blaspheme anyway and am offended by others who do.

Children I taught would never blaspheme in my earshot.

As for swearing I do say "damn" and am aware of it. Used in frustration.

Never in front of my grandchildren though, because I always remember when I had a temporary teaching job for a year.

I was under quite a lot of stress being full time teacher and mummy to 3 little girls, 6, 4 and 2 .
My husband was a teacher too and teaching was his priority !!!!
So everything was left to me to do.

I must have used "damn" a lot at home because our child minder was concerned that my 2 year old was coming out with that word so much.

I was mortified !

My 10 year old DD started at the international school with, what she thought was the worse swear words, damn and sugar. By the end of the school day she thought differently.

Another daughter had a similar problem with a school vocabulary test on French slang word definitions.

I always endeavoured not to swear in front of my children, but one day I had a whole line of washing out (no mean feat in itself with 2 tots and a twintub!), and when we got home after toddler group I remembered the washing and a frustrated "oh Sh*t" just erupted from my mouth. My 3 year old immediately started dancing around the room singing Sh*t, Sh*t sh*t etc. Luckily some quick thinking saved the day, when I asked her what she was saying and she repeated it, explaining "it's what you said mummy". I then "explained" to her that what I had said was "sheets", because my sheets were all getting wet on the line. She looked at me a bit quizzically for a moment whilst she processed that, then thankfully resumed her song and dance, but this time, all about "sheets" ... phew! I was more careful after that!

I do swear in difficult situations but not blaspheme. I don't use the F or C words.
I didn't swear in front of the grandchildren when they were young but they are grown up now so not a problem. When I joined their WhatsApp group my granddaughter said to my grandson " Nanny is on here now X so no swearing "

Just didn’t do it in front of children. I never have.
I don’t have a problem with expressing myself with whichever words I feel appropriate with, company considered however!

Our vocabulary is rich and varied. Why swear?
Use alternatives. "Jolly" can replace Fs and Bs. "Ninny" can replace Cs. And so on...

My grandchildren say anything heard at home is nothing compared to what they hear when they go to secondary school.
I think all we can do is to help them to sort out what is appropriate for different settings.

We were brought up on notoriously rough estate. We were regular spectators at the local football stadium where swearing has always been standard.

I never heard dad swear once as a child nor as an adult. He described it as bad language

I tried to do the same but failed miserably.

I manage to keep myself in check with g.c.

Yammy

Do you swear in front of your grandchildren?
I'll admit both DH and I do. Not really bad language but where we come from Blaspheming is still in everyday use and used constantly. So run to hell, or for Christ's sake is common everyday parlance and we don't realise we are doing it. Our family have never objected and the SIL think it is funny. Yet neither of us swore at work
A relation has got into bother for using the same kind of language and was quite upset they did not realise they were doing it and it was repeated by a toddler. Especially after the language that is used today both to other people and even on T.V., it seems pretty mild.
Our grandparents often referred to children as the buggering bairns and we just accepted it.
How would you feel if reprimanded and would you not swear in the first place?

I wouldn't. If the relative, presumably an adult, felt upset at being reprimanded, imagine how bad a child would feel when they eventually get reprimanded at school for using the same words.

I try very hard not to, but once in a moment of intense frustration I let a b.....r and a bl...dy go. My Grandson was shocked (he was 7 at the time ) and later told on me to his mummy. I was ashamed and told him.
I don't really like swearing, particularly from children or grandmothers!
My Dad used to give us a reproving look and say " I wish you wouldn't. It does not become you ". That was when we were adults. I don't remember what was deemed to be ' bad language ' in the home when I was a child. It was certainly forbidden at school and punished by detention and parents were told. How times have changed!

I never swear. My children would never swear in my earshot. I have never heard any of my grandchildren swear either...eldest are 18 and 24. Swearing is not necessary. Our language can explain anything we want to say without swearing.