My four year old grandson "doesn't want me"

MY grandson is three and I see him loads but sometimes he will ask for mummy or want to go home even when we are having fun. Remember children often regress a bit when they have change of circumstances. I would reassure him that you love him whatever he says or does.
A weekend away from mummy can be a long time, maybe your son could think about the contact being a bit shorter, I know it;s difficult as i am sure he wants to have as much time as possible with him but it need not be forever. The quality is important as well as the quantity.
These things have a way of sorting themselves out and being concerned shows you are sensitive to his needs.

Are his parents able to chat easily about the contact if so maybe they could work out what's best for now?

Good Luck.

Thank you supernan and jangly. That's reassuring.

I agree with jangly. It seems awfully tough for you at the moment but, I'm convinced that as your grandson gets to know you and your love for him, he will grow to appreciate and love you in return. Have faith...

You know Dordor, I think this is a phase little boys go through! My younger grandson, who is 5, has started to say things like "I love mummy" and I want mummy" when he is at our house. The older one went through the same phase but he has now come out of it the other end. I think they reach an age where they realize that mummy is a very important person in their lives and they shy away from other female family members who might have any claim to their affections. I don't think it's anything to do with you personally or any family situation. He will grow out of it. Underneath it he loves you, and that will resurface later. Best thing I find is to stand back a bit. If he doesn't want a kiss, don't push for one. Try not to worry. He does still love you. Its just a development thing. HTH