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marypoppins Fri 13-May-11 16:05:57

Hi, I'm a first time, single Grandmother to lovely 14month old twins who are now both toddling.
I look after them twice a week and it is becoming more challenging for me to keep up as they are so active and are starting to be competitive with each other now.
I would love some useful tips from others with twin experience please!

gracesmum Sun 04-Dec-11 21:09:03

Lovely news - very happy for you thanks

Ariadne Sun 04-Dec-11 21:24:18

Carol so happy for you, and all your family. xx

carboncareful Mon 05-Dec-11 17:44:24

One of our's swallowed a two pence coin on Friday. Xray says it got straight into stomach - now the wait. But how will it get out without causing pain or injury? Anyone know?

At three they have now, of their own accord, colour coded themselves: one is pink the other is green. So, if one is wearing red he is the pink twin. If one is wearing blue he is the green twin. Get it? She buys the same clothes but different colour.
Also, when buying for the older boy she buys two instead of one item so that they can pass down as double, of equal wear, if you see what I mean.

At three and a half and identical they still refer to themselves as we: as in we want to go to the park, we want chocolate etc.
Got rid of the cots a while back - now wondering for how long two can sleep top to tail in the bottom bunk (older brother on top)?

Have any of you discovered yet that you can't be in charge of twins on a busy road and be able to sneeze or hold a handbag!!!!?

greenmossgiel Mon 05-Dec-11 17:52:57

Carol that is wonderful news! What a lovely Christmas you'll all have! thanks

Libradi Mon 05-Dec-11 19:54:02

Delighted to hear your news Carol.

Carol Mon 05-Dec-11 21:26:25

Hi carboncareful. The coin should appear in no time - someone just has to sift poo to make sure it's been spotted. One of my children ate multicoloured plasticene when he was three - result - multi-coloured poo! My three year old twin grandsons also refer to themselves as we - not so much the way they identify themselves but more to show they are a force to be reckoned with when they gang up! You are brave to have them on a busy road without being in a pushchair. Mine have backpacks with reins in them that are quite helpful, but they still run rings round me - great fun! x

harrigran Tue 06-Dec-11 00:13:21

Lovely news Carol

Carol Mon 12-Dec-11 11:08:04

Exciting day today - my daughter and I are going to pick up the babies' twin pram and car seats. Polly is now 4 lbs 7 ozs and Alice is 4 lbs 1 oz - she has doubled her birth weight! They are now 6 weeks old and both on 4 hour feeds, so if they demand food before they are due, and manage to take their feeds so they continue to put on weight, they will be discharged. Two weeks before Christmas - no pressure, girlies, but it would be soooo lovely to have them at home with their mum and dad.

Grannylin Mon 12-Dec-11 11:22:55

Thats wonderful Carol, made me glow!Lovely pics too

Butternut Mon 12-Dec-11 11:44:05

Fingers crossed Carol - twins are great, being one myself!
Love the photos, too.

syberia Mon 12-Dec-11 11:44:31

Everything crossed for you Carol !!

Carol Mon 12-Dec-11 11:47:26

Thanks, peeps - you have all kept me going since the babies arrived very early and scared me to bits - thankfully, they are doing well and look more like bonny babies now. I will put more photos on when I learn how to upload them from elsewhere - not very technically minded, so will have to learn x

Annobel Mon 12-Dec-11 12:22:40

So excited for you, Carol. What a wonderful Christmas you have in prospect. thanks

glammanana Mon 12-Dec-11 12:40:19

How fabulous Carol enjoy your Christmas and all your DGs.smile

Ariadne Mon 12-Dec-11 13:45:31

So good to hear how well they are doing, Carol! How lovely to think of them home for Christmas. Fingers firmly crossed for you.

MDougall Mon 12-Dec-11 14:23:16

Carol, all my best wishes for Polly and Alice.

Mary Poppins, I have twin grandaughters who are now 8 years old. As Carol says, we helped lots in the first two years as my daughter also had a 14 month old son when the girls were born - so lots of hard work for her and the husband. We babysat as often as we could (we live two hours away) and I always went down to her home for a whole day every two weeks or they came to us for a weekend. We also supplied lots of disposable nappies, wipes, etc.etc. as they ran out so quickly and are very expensive (Daughter tried traditional nappies but the washing machine was on constantly so electric was more expensive in the end!).

Grace and Florence are also as different as chalk and cheese and we always had to be prepared to cater for their differing interests. in terms of them arguing etc. we always found the best policy was "Group" banishment!!! That means, that if someone made a mess, or started a scrabble, then all three (their older brother) or both of them had to leave the room and "make-up"! This sounds silly to some people - but you know it definitely works - they soon make up if you do not intervene, blaming each other can't work because we would not listen and they soon sorted out their troubles between them! I used this method with my three children when they were little (three under the age of 5 years) and I was told to try this by a renowned child psychologist who spoke to our "National Housewives Register" (anyone remember this group in the 70's?) - I didn't believe it would work but I tried it and it worked a miracle and peace nearly always reigned in our house and disputes were always resolved quickly and without my intervention!!!!!!

CBeebies is a godsend and I used it for one hour each morning. Also had masses of paper (buy the paper rolls from the Early Learning Centre) and kept all the cardboard leftovers etc to make and paste lots of things. Baking, as already mentioned is a great success and the mess will be worth it.

As everyone else has mentioned - the twins have been a real joy and it is so rewarding to see them grow up so well and so happy. The years really do fly by and although it is tiring in the end, they will appreciate all the time you spend with them and you will be loved so much for all your efforts.

Carol Mon 12-Dec-11 17:19:33

MDougall it's lovely to hear about your twin grandaughters and what has worked with them during squabbles and mischief. I have two other twin grandsons (both twin daughters have had IVF) and they are hilarious but do need a bit of discipline to keep things in check. I'll tell my daughter about the 'group banishment' idea - if it works, worth having in the repertoire! Knowing those two (3 years old) they would love being banished and would make no attempt to resolve their differences. I remember the National Housewives Register, as my first son was born in the 70s. So many ideas about how to parent, and in a few years from now, we'll be advised that praising good behaviour and ignoring poor behaviour was the wrong thing to do - makes you wonder what's next!

Annobel Mon 12-Dec-11 17:30:47

NHR is nowadays the NWR - National Women's Register. Like so many other women's organisations we are suffering from a lack of new blood and if our branch is anything to go by, could soon become the National Pensioners' Register! But we are alive and kicking and still have those 'lively minds', though no longer marooned at home with young children, as the original members were.

Carol Fri 23-Dec-11 12:32:55

Hurray!!!! Today, Polly is coming home from SCBU and we are all so happy! Alice will be home within the week. They have both done so well, from being little sugar bag size babies when they were born 8 weeks ago, spending their first weeks in incubators and their loving family has wished every single ounce on to their little bodies. They are both around 5 lbs now. Will put a photo on profile as soon as we get a happy family one x

Faye Fri 23-Dec-11 12:42:13

Great news Carol you must be feeling relieved. You will have lots of cuddles over Christmas now. thanks

supernana Fri 23-Dec-11 12:52:52

Carol The very best Christmas present ever. thanks wine cupcake smile

harrigran Fri 23-Dec-11 13:54:33

Wonderful news Carol thanks

Libradi Fri 23-Dec-11 19:42:03

Fantastic news Carol, lovely Christmas present for all the family, hope Alice will be with you soon too.thanks

nanachrissy Fri 23-Dec-11 20:38:38

That is lovely news Carol,you will have a wonderful Christmas xx

Grannylin Fri 23-Dec-11 20:43:00

Love and best wishes to you Carol, best newsx