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what do the grandchildren call you?

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jackyann Thu 19-May-11 13:30:58

I shall soon be a first-time grandmother (love all the tips - thanks!)
In my area, the traditional names are: Nanna / nanny & Gramps / grampy.
In my family when we became adults it was thought that these names were childish, and we were invited to call our parents & grandparents by their given names (this goes back at least 3 generations)
However, when my children became adults they laughed at the idea of doing this - we remain "mum & dad", my parents remained "nanny & grampy", and their great-grandad had a family nickname that we all called him.
My parents recently died and I suppose we would traditionally become "nanny & grampy". I myself would be quite happy to be called by my given name (a suggestion that has caused even more hilarity!)
So: I find "grandma" formal, "nanny / nanna" fine for small children (but I hope to be around until they are adults).
My children think it's silly to use my given name (as if I don't want to be a granny - I do!!)
I don't have any cultural background to enable me to get round it by calling myself "oma / nonna" etc.

Please pitch in, you all have such good ideas about everything else!

Galen Fri 18-Apr-14 16:06:03

I'm Graggy! Heaven knows why.
The other gran got in first with Grandmatbusad

annodomini Fri 18-Apr-14 16:02:19

Try to follow this: one set of GSs have two grannies, known as Granny A and Granny E; their mother's father is Granda and his second wife is Granny M; their great grandmother is Granny. They don't see my ex and his wife often enough to have to call them anything. My other GC call me Granny or Gran.

DebnCreme Fri 18-Apr-14 15:56:58

whenim64 that's just brilliant tbugrin

granjura Fri 18-Apr-14 15:40:36

Very simple- granny and granpa smile

whenim64 Fri 18-Apr-14 15:16:59

I revived this thread because yesterday one of my little grandaughters was invited by her mum to explain to me who her nanas are.

MiL is 'nana jar' because she's called Janet. I am 'nana car' because I always turn up in my car................

Then there is my ex-DH's partner who insists on being called nana, too. It doesn't bother any of us enough to take issue with her. The children rarely see her, anyway. Her name is Chris......or, as little A calls her......'nana piss!'

I know we shouldn't, but grin

nonnasusie Tue 09-Aug-11 15:25:56

I am a step grandmother to 1 and have 2 that belong to my children so as we live in Italy and my husband is Italian we are nonno & nonna (hence user name). It saves confusion!!

riclorian Mon 08-Aug-11 16:41:11

We are Oma and Poppa

Jacey Mon 08-Aug-11 16:17:48

I used to call my grandmother ...'nanny' ...until I found out that was the name of a female goat! I was horrified ...so called her Gran ...as granny was a bit too close to nanny. She was fine about the change when I explained why.

Parkgater Mon 08-Aug-11 15:16:45

I'm a step granny and the real granny is rather touchy. So, rather than cause any upset, my husband and I are Pops & Noni... and his ex wife is Granny. I'm v happy about this as I like being Noni, it sounds younger than "Granny".
I hasten to add that I'm treated like a "proper" granny by my stepson & his lovely wife. My Husband & I have been married for nearly 20 years & raised 3 boys who are all treated as our sons. We are now reaping the benefits of our family.
However, the "Ex" isn't so happy.....although she & my husband were divorced for 11 yrs before we married.. she is v jealous of our happiness & my relationship with HER son. She complained to him that I wasn't the child's granny & shouldn't consider myself such. I'm pleased to say she was firmly put in her place by my stepson.
I'm v proud of my combined family and my lovely grandson.

Faye Tue 26-Jul-11 02:11:31

I love it when they choose themselves. I refer to myself as Grandma, but eldest gd and eldest gs, are cousins and spent a lot of time together in their early years both called me Mumma for a few years, now they call me Grandma. Third grandchild called me Ahma but now he is three he calls me Grandma. Fourth grandchild also three calls me GRuumma, I think its the way she speaks. Youngest grandson also three has always called me Grandma. He also calls my mother Old Grandma while my other grandchildren call her Great Grandma. Their other grandparents range from Grandma, nanny, nana, papa, granddad and maybe a pop. It doesn't seem to matter, if they are referring to another grandmother they might say Grandma and then her first name.
Middle grandson was cross when his mother asked him if he knew that Grandma had another name. As far as he is concerned my only name is Grandma and that's it. smile

numberplease Mon 25-Jul-11 15:04:16

We are Grandma and Grandad to all our grandchildren, I definitely didn`t want to be Nanny or Nanna, although I think they all call their other grandmothers Nanny or Nan.

allule Mon 25-Jul-11 14:43:28

I have nine grandchildren in four families, and the complication has been finding names they can all use which don't clash with those used for the 'other' grandparents - easy enough with the first, but gets more difficult with each new arrival.
I am 'Grandma', which only clashes with one, so we add our christian names, as suggested. My husband is 'Grandpa', where all the others are 'Grandads', so that has fallen into place.
I hate the name 'Nanna', but know others who feel the opposite way round. Luckily things seem to have sorted themselves out amicably in our family.

Beakay Mon 25-Jul-11 12:09:38

My two granddaughters (now grownup) call me Annan and have done since toddlerhood. Why ? No idea , but I didn't want to be called Granny or Grandma. So now I share the name with an island and a football team!

GadaboutGran Thu 21-Jul-11 17:16:32

My mother's family were from the East Midlands and hated Nana or Nanny - always Grandma or Grandad so it's not just regional. I wondered if there were class differences but they were solid working class, though maybe with aspirations!
We are grandma and grandpa, not yet shortened by gdaughter. Her other set are Maltese - Nana & Nanu. Our son 's child will be Anglo-German-Kiwi with a French step-grandmother so I guess he'll have a grandma, grandpa, opa (or grossvater - his family considered opa too 'common'), grandmama, Kiwis?? (yet to declare preferences!) The great grandmothers will be Gran-Gran (English), Mimi (French family tradition) and Kiwi Nana yet to declare her.

I do however think it nice to adopt any versions given by the grand-children themselves. Mine called my father Tim Dad.

grannyactivist Thu 21-Jul-11 00:22:38

My husbands grandparents were Gran and Grandpa to all the family, my mother is Nana and my parents in law are called simply by their given names. I am Granny and I love, love, love it. My grandson actually said it properly for the first time yesterday. (Before now he's always just called me Mummy as if I'm an extension of his mother - I'm so pleased he can now give me my proper title.) smile

Granny23 Thu 21-Jul-11 00:00:35

I had a Granny and a gran (both Grandfathers died before I was born).
Our DDs had 2 x Granny+surname, a Grandad and a Granpa.
2 of our GC have 2 x Granny+first name and 1 Granpa+first name and 1 GRANDPAL!
Our other DGD has Granny and Granpa and Nana

All of these are Scottish except Nana who is a Yorkshire woman. I do think there is a strong regional variation in the choices made.

glammanana Wed 20-Jul-11 23:16:10

All mine have called me nanna and they call my DH poppa even our DCs have
got in to the habit of calling him poppa now but really he answers to anything

Baggy Wed 20-Jul-11 21:16:44

My dad's name was James, although anyone who met him once he was an adult called him Jim, including my mother. Same thing with my brother James. So when my parents went to visit brother James, whom his wife calls Jim, their eldest child called her grandfather, Jimpa.

ellie50 Wed 20-Jul-11 20:56:45

i was called nerni by my grandchildren because my mum was granny and still alive when they were younger. the name has stuck although the eldest has called me nan a few times because i'm sure nerni sounds quite childish to her.
my maternal grandmother was always known as granny and my grandfather was grandad. i dont feel like a granny so i'm quite happy to be known as nerni.

mrshat Sun 03-Jul-11 16:53:34

Grandma and Grandpa - decided on by our daughter and we are quite happy with that. Our GD is moving from Gramma and Grampa to Grandma and Grandpa. - I quite like Gramma!

ginny3 Sun 03-Jul-11 13:59:45

All 3 gds call me Nanna, my choice as i loved my Nanna very muchsmile She hated granny said it made her feel old. Was first gds first word smile

janreb Sat 02-Jul-11 18:08:54

We are granny and grandad but for some reason my two eldest grandchildren have always called their other grandad "grumpy" (he isn't) and my middle daughter always called my father "rabbit" - goodness knows why!

chrisy Wed 29-Jun-11 17:20:24

I think the the name Gran is fine and I Hope my granddaughter calls me that

LesleyC Sat 25-Jun-11 17:56:10

I love being called Grandma. It is such a privilege to be a Grandma and that's what I want to be called!

Synonymous Sat 25-Jun-11 17:02:29

Our grandhildren call both of their grandmothers Granny followed by a description which where we live.
I am going to be very careful where we move to!smile