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Waiting for the call

(32 Posts)
AnthonyGrumps Sat 31-Dec-11 17:21:56

My advice is to take a back seat and just enjoy being there while letting your SiL be the "main man", but if it seems like he is struggling a bit at any time, offer him the opportunity to take five and regroup. Be the one to wet the flannel for her face, make sure there is a nice cool drink, answer the phone, make cups of tea for the midwife and generally be the happy gopher. I hope you have a wonderful experience. What a lucky lady you are smile

Libradi Sat 31-Dec-11 16:43:46

No advice GrandmaRoo but such an exciting time for you, hope all goes well and that you will be back soon to tell us all about your new GC. My own DD had a little girl just 3 weeks ago so it brings it all back to me.
Happy New Year to you and your familythanks

nanachrissy Sat 31-Dec-11 16:18:40

Jump up and down with excitement GrandmaRoo, it is so lovely to see your dd become a mother. Most of all enjoy it! smile

Ariadne Sat 31-Dec-11 15:54:40

It's harder because you know what's going on, and because our role has always been to "make it better"!

Annika Sat 31-Dec-11 15:14:47

GrandmaRoo there is not much more that I could add to what Carol has already said.
I think its harder being the mum of a daughter in labour than it ever was than you are giving birth yourself, at least you have some idea of what is going on !!!!!!!! I was a total waste of space when my daughter had her son so try and relax she will need you later on !!!!
Have a brew or wine to help you along but second thoughts not wine if you expect to drive within the next few hours.Best of luck to you boththanks

Carol Sat 31-Dec-11 14:57:39

Advice? Heck no - you sound just like I would in that position - just pace the floor if you want to, have a weep, get hysterical, have a glass of wine, get the baby photos out from when she was born, do all those daft things we do to pass the time, make sure there's petrol in the car and look forward to the most amazing time of your life. Try to enjoy it and keep telling her how well she is doing. Lucky you - what a wonderful experience you're going to have thanks

GrandmaRoo Sat 31-Dec-11 14:49:21

Hello everyone, I'm new to this, trying to stay calm and unstressy so I can be in a fit state to help DD when the call finally comes through. Her waters broke - well, started leaking - yesterday afternoon. Since then, 2 visits from the midwife but absolutely nothing else. Today she's done several laps of the local park, been out for lunch, and seen her midwife again. She's a 2-hour drive away, but through central London - goodness knows what that will be like if we leave it til later, with all the New Year celebrations. Her midwife is adamant that we don't need to do anything yet, and so of course I'm calmly agreeing with DD and trying to stay busy.

Just had text to say latest midwife keen to get things moving within 48 hours, so DD is off for reflexology later this afternoon, plus lots of exercises to do. (Reflexology?)

So, when the call comes and we make it through the revellers, any advice for me in the delivery room (with lovely SIL too)? She has a water birth booked, if all is straightforward. I feel very anxious, much more than I ever did with my own four babies, and want so much to support her.

Thanks, everyone.