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mammamia Sat 16-Jun-12 13:59:29

Hi im wondering if anyone can help me; I am a single mum with a 3 year old little girl soon to be 4 in August, sadley i have lost both my parents many years ago and her dad and his parents have chosen not to be a part of her life. This leaves us with no other family other than my grown up children.

It saddens me that she is missing out on what i had when i was growing up, storys, wisdom and someone important to love and respect.
She is a polite yet funny character, who I have been told is a credit to me, she has lots of love to give and has a big heart.

We have so much love to give and another generation in our lives would be priceless. She is missing out on so much and often asks why she hasnt seen her Grandma, I have ran out of excuses so thought i would see if i could find someone in a similar position to us with no family in need of that litle bit of company, love and new memories that we can share.

I have a CRB (this shows i have no criminal record as i currently work with vulnerable adults) as i have to have an enhanced one for my work, This would be available to see. I would be willing to travel a reasonable distance. We live in the Wirral area.

I have my fingers crossed and hope to hear from you soon

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Sbagran Sat 16-Jun-12 21:32:51

sad What a sad story Mammamia and what a lovely Mum you are to think the way you do.
Unfortunately I am too far away - down in the West Country - or I would offer my services, as although I have four grandchildren (14yrs down to 7months) I have more than enough love to share.
Are you a Church-goer? If so, have a word with your Priest or Minister as it may be that they may know of a lonely person who would really appreciate and benefit from being 'adopted'?
You work with vulnerable adults so you are obviously aware of CRBs. In your working role, I imagine you come into contact with Social Workers - could you have a confidential chat with one of them and see if they know of anyone who would benefit from being 'adopted' by you?
On a wider scale, have you thought of visiting a residential home, especially as you have CRB cover? My Mum was in a residential home and many of the other residents hardly ever had visitors and were delighted when we went in with our young grandchildren. (Mum wasn't too impressed at 'sharing' her great-grandchildren but soon realised how thrilled the others were and how lucky she was to have us visiting - you wouldn't have that problem!)
I am sure you don't need to be told this, but please check out any 'applicants' you get - especially if you get to the point of allowing 'adopted' grandparent take your little one out or have unsupervised access. I am our Parish Safeguarding Officer so child protection is always on my mind - as I said I am sure you would be aware but I can't help making sure.
Good luck and flowers to a lovely Mum!

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Anagram Sat 16-Jun-12 21:35:27

I'm sure there's someone out there who would love to fill the gap, Mammamia, I do hope you find the right person/s soon! smile

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Maniac Sat 16-Jun-12 23:26:57

mammamia
There is another thread on this subject under 'Ask a gran.>how can I find a surrogate grandma' -in April.
Wish you success in your search.

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mammamia Sun 17-Jun-12 18:56:33

thank you all for your kind words sbagran, i have thought about people in homes , but fear sadley in this day and age people may think we are there for the wrong reasons, and yes i think it is important for all partys to be checked for safety, can never be to careful these days.
i will check out the thread Manic thanks.

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