NannaAnna I agree fully with you there! It all depends on how well parented you were yourself.
Despite some faults, my parents were both very able to provide the basic nurturing and stimulation needed for good attachment and basic selfworth. They did not have to be taught this, they learned, probably unconsiously, by
experiencing it.
I see with amusement my daughter now doing the same thing always interacting verbally with DGS, down to the same silly "conversations" I had with my children as babies. She was never actively "shown" how to do it.
but had somehow "learned" it.
There was a program some time ago, I think about social workers ?in Bristol. This showed a father, himself with a very troubled background, who was quite unable to interact with his child during a supervised parenting assessment, he held the child, but did not seem to have a clue about how to talk to him or play with him.
Some of these skills can be taught to parents who lack them. And they do result in improved family relations.
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