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Moving to help son

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overthehill Wed 10-Apr-13 20:31:07

This isn't my story, but of someone I know of, which I am telling as a word of warning after reading another post about `moving to be near son`.

This lady's son wanted a bigger house but couldn't afford it. The lady in question is a widow and he is her only child. He has a wife and twin sons. I am going back a few years and haven't heard how it is panning out as it is a friend of a friend.

The lady, sold her house and gave the cash to her son so he could buy the place he wanted. She was expecting a `granny flat` to be built on this house. Initially, she had a room in the house for her and her little dog waiting for extention work to start. She joined the family for meals and sitting time. Her DIL didn't like the dog so ended up spending more time in her room with the dog.

In the end they built a sort of mobile home for her at the end of the garden which made her feel that was her place and that is where she should stay. Mind you when they both were out at work she was more than welcome to come into the house to look after the twins.

Bearing in mind she gave them £250,000 I find this disgraceful treatment.

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Deedaa Wed 10-Apr-13 20:41:15

Sounds a bit like my husband's cousin who got his granny to sell him her house at a very reduced rate while she moved in with his mother. Instead of moving into his nice new home the cousin sold it for a great deal of money. As this was an Italian family you can imagine the feuding that has gone on for the last 20 odd years!

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Eloethan Wed 10-Apr-13 23:00:49

That sounds exactly like the elderly lady who used to live next door to my mum and dad many years ago. Her son had said that, as she was getting older and needed more support, she should sell her house and move in with him and his family. They would, he said, use her money to have a self-contained extension built for her.

A friend of hers on the estate later received a letter from her saying how unhappy she was - that the extension had never materialised and that she was just stuck in one bedroom. It was very sad.

I can't understand how people can be so cruel and greedy.

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cathy Thu 11-Apr-13 20:38:50

I agree, it is a disgrace to say the least. I have a family member that is as ruthless as that and I would hate to be at his mercy. I pity that poor women sad

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