Teenage boy not talking

Yes, another one here finding it normal - and don't assume he agrees with his father. If you are determined to talk, try to find a common ground but never make him the centre of attention, they hate it. I used to sort of meander through subjects until something struck a chord, but school is not a popular subject, I doubt you will know any music he likes and you won't know his friends. It's tough. You can try asking what he wants to do when he leaves school as long as you don't knock it - everyone is entitled to their dreams. Admire a piece of clothing even if you hate it. Don't feel rejected, it's a phase and much of it is to do with not knowing where they stand - not a child, not an adult, having lost the ability to give spontaneous hugs.

Nothing strange with him at all YorkieChris we have just come out the other side with DGS4 and he is 17 and he has suddenly found how to communicate again after a couple of quiet years,and his elder brother still like's to use as least words possible when it comes to adults but with his college friends he never stops talking so don't take it personal it's a passage of time for boys,I dread DGD age 12 over the next few years if she is anything like her mum was I'll tell her to come back when she's 21 and not before

sounds like my brother and my son.

Sounds fairly normal to me. It's a stage that teenage boys frequently go through. It'll pass. Hang in there.

Same here as everyone else, boys seem to go through this stage but they do come out the other end eventually.

I think it's a bit unfair of the boys father to make jokey comments though; old enough to know better. Mind you, I'm impressed that he does go with his parents when they're visiting. Went to a party years ago and everyone there was amazed that my kids had agreed to go as well. It is strange isn't hearing one monosyllablisitc [sp] teenager nattering away to his mates [although quite reassuring as well].

This brings back memories of DS2 who at that age lived in his room and spent as little time with any of us as possible. If pressed he would declare that he didn't like us and had nothing in common with any of us. We had a few horrible years but it did change gradually I'm glad to say. He is now 24 and when we see him (not often - busy!) he never stops talking. He even came on holiday with us last year, of his own free will! Try not to let it get to you, I think it's a fairly normal part of male development and they do come out of it, usually turning back into nice people

Exactly what I was going to say when. Not that I have 14 year old grandson but I did have two 14 year old sons.

YorkieChris many teenagers are uncommunicative with relatives for all sorts of reasons. My nearly 14 year old grandson has turned into Kevin the Teenager, mumbling and using monosyllables when asked what did he grunt say? He has grown his hair so only a little of his lovely face peeps out, as have all his friends. In the company of friends, or when he doesn't realise he is being listened to, he chats as normal. It's a stage he's going through. Can't wait for him to get to the next stage, by which time he'll probably disappear to university and we won't get the benefit of his newfound communication skills!