Son won't let me see my grandchildren

That sounds awful Skyler There is a thread on here called "Cut Out of Their Lives" and lots of people there have similar stories. You may be some advice there. You will certainly get lots of support! It so so difficult when you are held to ransom.

Skyler - How awful for you. As wisewoman says, the 'cut out of their lives thread' on the Am I Being Unreasonable forum may help you.

How awful, it sounds as if you have outlived your usefullness to him. It's blackmail, don't give in, there will be something else he will need from you at some point.

That's heartbreaking Skyler thankfully I'm not in that position, but there are others who are and as wisewoman says perhaps they can support you.

I am sorry to her this sad tale. I really do not know what you can do. It truly is blackmail and using his children in this way is unacceptable - it must hurt to think that it is your own son doing these things.

As other have said, your best bet would be to look at the threads above where others in a similar situation may be able to advise.

Thank you so much for all your replies. I'll take a look at threads you've mentioned. x

The thread seems to be closed now - over 1000 responses to the original post so that tells me I'm not alone. My heart goes out to anyone in this situation. Mine's got a little worse; he's now threatening to write to my beautiful 2nd husband and as he put it 'tell him what sort of bitch he married', ditto to my ex-husband's wife. It seems he will stop at nothing to hurt me or his dad, just for saying no to giving him yet more money. I hate that my little gc's are being brought up in such a poisonous atmosphere. Maybe the best thing I can do is not respond to him and just make sure the kids know I'm always there for them. Always.

Have a look at the thread 'Cut out of their lives 2', Skyler? This is a thread that is on the go all the time, and the posters are really supportive of each other. It's a nightmare for you, without a doubt.

Just adding this bit - it's on the Active threads. You'll find it easily.

There is another thread, *Skyler" - you have to restart after 1000 posts! It is called "Cut out of thier lives" - yes, there is a spelling mistake!

There is also a very good, positive one about being cut off yet trying to move on, but I'll have to look for it. Someone else may get there first in the search.

Meanwhile, we are all with you, empathising and offering a listening ear. x

Skyler - Is there anyone who could act as mediator? You'll have seen from the other threads that unfortunately, a number of posters have relationships with adult children that have broken down. If that can be avoided, it's probably the best solution for all of you. There are some charities that could help you communicate. Pro Contact is based in Gtr Manchester, and it's probably similar organisations are available near you. The Family Rights Group has a very helpful website. Good luck with this.

Skyler Just sending you and all those in similar situations a cyber ((hug)) a very sad story.

I always hesitate to comment on these threads as I have no children of my own but your son threatening to write to your husband and your ex's wife sounds like a child having a tantrum for not getting his own way. I am sure your husband wouldn't give any credence to such a letter so I wouldn't worry about that. I certainly wouldn't give in to the blackmail but understand your worries about your gc. Do look at the thread mentioned as you will find other GNs in the same situation and who can give you a lot of support.

Skyler So sorry to hear of your problems with your son,it certainly does sound as mentioned above like "stamping feet syndrom" more in line with a 3 yrs old not getting their own way ? Ignore his threats regarding letters and just put any correspondence from him in the bin and don't upset your self reading it same for you xhubby and his new wife,he will make contact once he realizes he is getting no where & if he doesn't keep the door open for his wife and your relationship with her.

Keep your chin up Skyler. Your grandchildren know you are super.Hope things improve for u soon.