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Ear piercing on babies

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VanLe4 Wed 09-Sept-15 11:41:27

I am usually a lurker but am moved to post to get others' opinions on ear piercing of small children.

My DIL wants to get DGD's ears done for her first birthday. I am horrified by this for many reasons (it hurts, care is fiddly and difficult on such a small child at the beginning when you have to bathe the ears often, it's not necessary and I feel it is more appropriate for an older child)

I didn't let my DD have hers done until she started secondary school when I felt she was old enough for all the reasons above. Am I wrong? I haven't said anything to DS or DIL but I am upset about it and now not sure what to do.

Elrel Sat 19-Sept-15 00:11:02

Local jeweller has a sign saying:
'Ear piercing (Over 8 only)'
It's an old sign, painted on his shop, but I'd never read it before, just happened to be looking around while waiting for a bus .

nannypink1 Wed 23-Sept-15 10:48:44

My advice would be hear all see all but say nowt. As hard as that would seem she is yr sins child n not yrs but I fully understand yr concerns. I would feel the same but they will prob go ahead anyway if you say something n it may well do more harm than goodx

granjura Wed 23-Sept-15 11:04:56

Hate it- but then it is you ds and dil's decision and you'll just have to accept it and zip up (I know hardest thing to do. I sympathise).

Having said that, it is normal and common in all South Med countries like Italy, Spain, but also Bulgaria, Greece, etc. Is your dil foreign?

maxgran Wed 07-Oct-15 15:56:18

I hate the idea of a baby having pierced ears. However, I know younger people see it as ok. I am sure they make it as safe as possible but I would never approve of it.
If it were my daughter having the baby's ears done I definitely would say something,..not that it would have any effect whatsoever.
if it was my DiL then I probably wouldn't because it would just cause problems and she would go ahead anyway. I would probably say something to my son though.
I made my daughter wait until she was 16. Thank god she didn't want a Tattoo!

mummyagain Thu 08-Oct-15 20:43:34

Oh no, I don't like it at all!how difficult. You need to be careful what you say as ultimately it's the parents decision but there's no harm in mentioning that if they wait until the child can ask they could have a lovely mummy/daughter bonding day with lunch out etc. that's what I want to do with my daughter. Hopefully they'll listen and think that's a nicer idea? Poor baby x

Jane10 Thu 08-Oct-15 21:18:22

Practice your best Downton accent and say "Babies with pierced ears? How common!"