Hi All I firstly want to wish you all a belated very Merry Christmas!
WOW Christmas comes and goes so quickly but I wanted to share what a LOVELY time I had and am still having with my GS who lives with me ...
A lot of you know my story lol but after A LOT of pressure from my daughter ( his Mum ) re Christmas contact and pressurising me to see him on Christmas day which I felt a big ''no'' to in my gut so said no and stuck out 2 weeks of pressure from her with me standing my ground and her accepting in the end and even THANKING me for the compromise we reached she was happy to get a family visit with him at her cousins house for 3 hours as SS want me to start supervising visits soon and to get used to 'organising' it as once I have guardianship I will have to organise contact etc
Anyway that went fine and even though lo was sad to leave Mummy he soon perked up and had a FABULOUS , relaxed , peaceful , chilled out Christmas at home with me
It has been amazing and SO calm now and Santa came round all the way from the North Pole and visited him on 22nd December and some of the neighbours children came round half way through and we sang Christmas songs together and my GS sat on Santas lap and was lovely with him and vice versa and he brought his lovely helper with him ( I only paid £40 for a home visit from Santa and his helper! ) and it was great!
What a lovely way for him to see Santa as with his Autism he is not good with crowds and queing at grottos etc so this was PERFECT for him and his FACE when we opened the door was PRICELESS!!!
What a lovely memory plus he had lots of new toys to play with on Christmas day and enjoyed his dinner and even ate all his sprouts and carrots!! LOL
He has been SO calm and happy and so have I , he had one little meltdown today after spilling his water but bounced back from it in record time and returned to happy again quicker than he ever has before which is good
I am loving having him here and today it felt like he had ALWAYS been here , a real sense of 'belonging' for both of us and it feels longer than 6 months now!
The SW is leaving so we will have a new one but they are pretty much leaving me to get on with things which is fine but I will ask for help if I need it for sure!!!
I want to make sure I still get my ''me time'' which is SO important so he is going to his ''special playground'' for one day next week while I relax and drink tea and do some shopping in the sales and once back at school I am going to the cinema during the day to watch the film 'Joy' which is only costing me £6 and is my new way of relaxing and getting some quality me time as I love the cinema and it is both cheap and uncrowded during the day during the week PLUS I am having my FIRST NIGHT OUT in 2 years on 9th January , a social evening at a bar to just chill and chat with some ADULTS ( yay! lol ) and it was so lovely to have my older daughter and SIL and 3 year old GD here today and we had a fab day together
Foster panel is on 5th Jan so please hope and pray all goes well for that as everything seems positive and even the SW said she knows I will be ok and that I take good care of my GS but I NEED it to go well so I can REALLY RELAX afterwards
So thank you for your support I am keeping trucking on and it is still a sad situation with my daughters health but she has to get the help she needs and make the improvements to her life HERSELF and I have to concentrate on MYSELF AND LITTLE MAN as it is INSPIRATIONAL to see him SO happy and settled and he simply ''be's himself'' at home with lots of lovely singing and dancing round the house plus dancing in the mirror plus laughing lots together and we have our own private fun jokes which he practically falls over laughing to and I am laughing every day together with him as he has such a fab sense of humour and he 'gets' mine as it is similar and the dog LOVES him to the point he sits at the bottom of the stairs whining for him when he goes to bed!
He really is 'part of the family' now and whatever happens in the future with his Mum I am happy to look after him for as long as neccessary as he is an amazing little boy and such a blessing and I am so happy to have him here with me ESPECIALLY as he was away from me last Christmas which was HARD but this year my frown has been well and truly turned upside down and I wanted to share that with you all and thank you for being part of this amazing journey! xxx
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