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Badenkate Tue 26-Jan-16 16:03:47

I think it depends on your relationship with your DIL. Reading your post, I don't get the impression that it's particularly good. In which case, contacting her in some way yourself could well result in a bad reaction and further antagonism towards you, which would make the relationship even more difficult. It might be best to maintain a distance away, and let legalities take their course - cold, I know, but perhaps best in the long run. However, I don't have experience of a situation like this and perhaps other people have had similar problems and can let you know how they dealt with it. I do hope you manage to resume contact with your grandchildren. It must be heart-breaking for you at the moment flowers

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tracyb Tue 26-Jan-16 15:44:07

Hi all just an update and a little advise please. The court papers for access to my grandson will be served in 2 weeks time. My DIL has no idea they are coming. I wonder if I should write / text her to forewarn her that I do not want a war, I just want access to my grandson who until last September I was so very close to. She has been fed lies and spite from my ex husband and his wife from who I have been divorced from for 19 years. They have fed these lies to my daughter and son and they have not spoken to me for 4 years. I do not know what these lies are and have never had the opportunity to hear or put my side to them - not that it makes any difference to how I feel about my grand children. Should I forewarn her in the hope she will want to sort things out rather than go to court? Or do I let the court sort out access ( although I know she doesn't have to stick to this either)?
Many thanks for any advice - its so hard to know what to do for the best when I have done nothing wrong.

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