Photos on FB

This happens with my DIL too but I just see it as her immense pride and love for the boys and she cannot be faulted in any way as a Mum. I think it's a case of old habits .... If we are going to visit either of our children I tend to say "we are going to R...'s or D....'s today" and their in laws say the same using their offspring's names. Society is becoming far too sensitive these days and political correctness has become an absolute nonsense.

i agree totally with merlotgran! I love seeing pics of the children and grandchildren on Fb and I even put some up myself but always ask permission - we never put full names. They only go to our 'friends' which in my case is mainly family

BTW I never ever put picture of our GC on our FB- it is their choice to post or not- and of course they choose a limited audience for them on FB.

Definitely you I'm afraid. You must have an idyllic life if this is the only sort of thing you have to worry about. I still refer to the adult children as "my two" - their dad is still my husband after 35 years & he'd never think this was odd, although if we were talking to others together, it'd probably be "our two" .

When talking to my husband about our son, "l often refer to him as "my boy" he never gets miffed and we don't have any problem in our relationship!

I always refer to my sons as " my boys" not our boys if I'm talking about them but if I was with their father and meeting new people I would say our boys. It's just a term of endearment

I post pictures all the time of my daughters with the title of 'my girls' because they are MY girls.
If my husband chooses to upload any pictures of HIS daughters on his facebook then he would put 'MY girls'
If we had a joint facebook if would be 'OUR girls'

Its facebook. It's not really important.

I don't see anything wrong with the DIL saying "my boys". I think its been over analysed too much, my daughter posts on Facebook, pictures of " her girls", but its usually when she has taken the girls out for a while to the park or friends ,so her dear hubby can decorate, etc , she also posts pictures of the whole family when they are out together.

Not at all! My daughter refers to "her boys."

I sometimes say I am going to see my "little boys". I have no thoughts of owning them whatsoever. That is just a turn of phrase for me.

I tend to go into DDs and ask where is my "great big boy" (3yrs). It's to distinguish him from his baby brother. It's just a game.

Nothing wrong with saying "my". If that is all there is to be miffed about with her, then you are lucky

When my three grandchildren were small I always referred to them as my tots to their parents

mernice I'm sorry to say that it is you. I can't imagine a single person of my acquaintance taking umbrage about this and I'm a little bit perplexed at your thought process to be honest. Did you immediately feel miffed when you saw the post, and what was going through your mind at the time? I often refer to my two grandsons as 'my' boys, but can't imagine either of their parents taking offense by my use of the phrase.

I say 'my girls'on FB Its my account ... It doesn't mean I don't regard them as DH's girls too
What a strange observation OP

Exactly Merlot- living far away it's wonderful to see them regularly and hear about trips and special days etc- 'my boys' is totally acceptable afaiac.

I'd be very happy if one of my DIL posted any pictures on FB - it's like they're on the other side of the planet not the other side of the world!!

Exactly merlotgran - some people make such hard work of it.

I never realised until I read Mumsnet and Gransnet that people analysed things so much. It is a figure of speech. It makes you scared to open your mouth!
My father-in-law was still talking about 'my boys' when they were both over 60yrs. I thought it was lovely.

Thanks to facebook DH and I are kept up to speed with all the comings and goings, achievements, flopped cakes, teenage strops and other family stuff that we would otherwise miss out on.

I don't care whether my DIL or SIL call the DGCs, his, hers or ours. I just want to see them and have the opportunity to comment on how lovely they all are.

Hell bells. Are mothers when making an appointment to say - it's for our daughter /son. In a shoe shop say - our daughter would like to see red sandals ?

auntiflo Your DH can alter the privacy settings of anything he puts on FB.
Your phizog would only have been visible to the world and his wife, if he had set it to 'public'.
If he had set it to visible only to the family, as he quite possibly did, then yes YABU.

I think I've seen the term "my boys" used by a woman of her husband, her son, and her dog. If the husband's mother doesn't like it, well that's just tough. She's a daft 'aporth.

I'm with you Iam64, I don't understand this ownership of children or grandchildren. I feel quite sorry for GNs whose life seems to revolve around their children or, more usually, their grandchildren.

This is a problem???
If your son posted them as ''my boys" would you be equally miffed?
Oh dear.

I don't 'do' FB, but DH does, mainly to keep in touch with family members. Last year I saw that he had put up a recent photo of both of us, and I got really upset. He did take it down, but I really don't want my phizog out there for all to see. AIBU?.

I have to say I don't really know what the problem is? The fact that she says 'my boys' instead of 'our boys'? Or the fact that her husband (your son) isn't included in the group, i e. one of her 'boys'?
Either way it's a fuss aboit nothing. If that's all you've got to worry about then you're very lucky.