Photos on FB

No....because they are 'her' boys now

Do you mean pictures of your grandsons or pictures of your son ? If you mean your son unfortunately for us mums they are now belonging to AN other if you mean pictures of grandsons it seems a bit selfish and strange to not to say 'our boys' if it's a one off no problem if she always refers to them as hers maybe the relationship is not as good as it should be

What's the issue here? We do not own our adult children . There are so many comments on gransnet about sons no longer "belonging" to their mothers once they marry. They never did belong to us, we have been lucky to have children to do our best to help them as they grew into adults. I honestly do not understand the ownership thing.

Not at all. Surely dad could say "my boys" too?

Yes it's you Mernice.
Sigh.

I get what you are saying . Photos of the children not her husband¬! yes it seems a bit odd , why not" our boys " . I think we can be a bit oversensitive where our children are concerned , she probably didn`t mean to exclude him .

This is an extension of political correctness into family life.
As well as all the other comments we now have to be careful not to make, around various subjects, DiLs are now not allowed to refer to their own children as 'mine' in case it upsets the grandmother(s) who apparently also have ownership of them.
For pity's sake!

Presumably she is on her Facebook page, not a joint page, therefore she is speaking for herself, not her partner.
#nitpicking

Sorry, you didn't specify fb.
Stop looking for something to get het up about.

The thread title said FB Lona

I have to say I don't really know what the problem is? The fact that she says 'my boys' instead of 'our boys'? Or the fact that her husband (your son) isn't included in the group, i e. one of her 'boys'?
Either way it's a fuss aboit nothing. If that's all you've got to worry about then you're very lucky.

I don't 'do' FB, but DH does, mainly to keep in touch with family members. Last year I saw that he had put up a recent photo of both of us, and I got really upset. He did take it down, but I really don't want my phizog out there for all to see. AIBU?.

This is a problem???
If your son posted them as ''my boys" would you be equally miffed?
Oh dear.

I'm with you Iam64, I don't understand this ownership of children or grandchildren. I feel quite sorry for GNs whose life seems to revolve around their children or, more usually, their grandchildren.

I think I've seen the term "my boys" used by a woman of her husband, her son, and her dog. If the husband's mother doesn't like it, well that's just tough. She's a daft 'aporth.

auntiflo Your DH can alter the privacy settings of anything he puts on FB.
Your phizog would only have been visible to the world and his wife, if he had set it to 'public'.
If he had set it to visible only to the family, as he quite possibly did, then yes YABU.

Hell bells. Are mothers when making an appointment to say - it's for our daughter /son. In a shoe shop say - our daughter would like to see red sandals ?

Thanks to facebook DH and I are kept up to speed with all the comings and goings, achievements, flopped cakes, teenage strops and other family stuff that we would otherwise miss out on.

I don't care whether my DIL or SIL call the DGCs, his, hers or ours. I just want to see them and have the opportunity to comment on how lovely they all are.

I never realised until I read Mumsnet and Gransnet that people analysed things so much. It is a figure of speech. It makes you scared to open your mouth!
My father-in-law was still talking about 'my boys' when they were both over 60yrs. I thought it was lovely.

Exactly merlotgran - some people make such hard work of it.

I'd be very happy if one of my DIL posted any pictures on FB - it's like they're on the other side of the planet not the other side of the world!!

Exactly Merlot- living far away it's wonderful to see them regularly and hear about trips and special days etc- 'my boys' is totally acceptable afaiac.

I say 'my girls'on FB Its my account ... It doesn't mean I don't regard them as DH's girls too
What a strange observation OP

mernice I'm sorry to say that it is you. I can't imagine a single person of my acquaintance taking umbrage about this and I'm a little bit perplexed at your thought process to be honest. Did you immediately feel miffed when you saw the post, and what was going through your mind at the time? I often refer to my two grandsons as 'my' boys, but can't imagine either of their parents taking offense by my use of the phrase.