Thanks for your replies, update husband on the mend much better, our son not so good he came home yesterday thought to see how his dad was mistaken he came once again to fall out with me, he as me now doubting my own sanity really tried talking to him calmly yesterday he laughed in my face and said I was a very manipulative clever woman,his Dad does everything I said,over the last few years I have managed household budget looked after most not a problem I may add my DH not well enough to cope with this at moment we always sit and discuss what is what .
Our son language was appalling so his Dad said please don't swear in this house you have not been bought up with this standard of behavior.
I said can you please have a bit of consideration for your Dad he is unwell to which he replied there you go again playing the sympathy card, I am now doubting my own sanity surely I am not evil all I want is a peaceful life, to end the day our son due to marry in October his parting shot suppose you will now not be coming to Wedding.
I asked him to leave and come back when he could sit down and talk sensible and civil. I also asked if he was worried about anything other than his Dad to which he replied YOU wouldn't care, we never used to be like this.