Feeling Helpless

He has clearly overstepped the mark - by a long way - and however good your relationship has been in the past I think you need to step back. Let him cool down and when he realises what a prat he has been, accept his apology. If it is not forthcoming, forget about texts etc, drop him a card saying you still love him as your grandson but this behaviour both frightened and disappointed you. That you will be there for him in case of need but need his assurance that such a thing will NEVER happen again. He sounds a troubled young man, but soft soaping him, giving him money and letting walk all over you is NOT the best way to help him. It must hurt you dreadfully, but TOUGH LOVE . What an awful experience though

If money was for spending on holiday, then that doesn't qualify for hardship.

I would leave things alone too. I thought it was a shame when you said you were worried about him being short of cash. I think he is also short of temper and you should be worried about that! There is no excuse for a 24 year old to be so nasty to you or your husband. What a coward.

Despite everything you have both kept a good relationship with him, and that is commendable, and says a lot about you. He shouldn't be taking his anger out on you, and slapping him is nothing to be sorry for. Actually, well done!

I'm so sorry, Over. What a horrible thing to happen to you and your husband. You have nothing to reproach yourself with. No matter how much you love your DGS, you couldn't stand back and let your husband be hurt. I think most people would do exactly the same in the circumstances. The only thing that you can do is decide whether to forgive your DGS for his appalling behaviour when he calms down and offers an abject apology.

To be honest, I would have no further contact with him.Wait and see if he apologises to you both, as this is totally OTT behaviour.I don't know what your son has done for all the rage, but even if it is justified rage, so nasty to take it out on you and threaten and shove you.It was not up to you to apologise, but as you have done, if he doesn't contact you soon, then it may be best to leave things alone.?

I think I would leave well alone now. Perhaps send them the needed money (he sounds quite desperate), or perhaps put it through the letterbox and run?

You have said sorry for your bit. Nothing else for you to do. Let things cool down.